my thoughts here are not important, i'm mostly interested in how you all define the word for yourselves. i do think it can be helpful to some to think about what quantifies, for them, as specific relationships and what qualities they like and do not like. feel free to be as elaborate or as simple as you please.
A friend to me has the attributes of loyalty, the more of a friend the fiercer that is. A person who can really get you and not ridicule, but critique your performance in particular scenarios. A friend may be brutally honest, or deceptively true in their word.
A side affect of friendship is humour, of course, as being honest at every turn makes them an acquaintance.
That is my take on this particular thought.
A side affect of friendship is humour, of course, as being honest at every turn makes them an acquaintance.
That is my take on this particular thought.
To me, friends are people who I can goof about with. Talk to about stuff I need to talk about, or just generally be nerds with. Friends are people who are there to support you, to praise you and give you advice, I believe, and you should do the same for them. I care deeply for all of my friends, and I try my best to aid them if they're ever upset. One thing I hate is seeing people I love suffer.
I tend to find people who I click with immediately to be instantly called my friend. While we might not know a lot about each other, time will come about where we can get to know each other better. It doesn't have to be forced, or mandatory though. Plus, it's nice when you find out something new about a person you like.
Though, my best friend though? I love him to bits. I can literally do anything with him, and that's the kind of people I want to be surrounded with. The people I want to be friends with. I haven't got any time for useless drama or jealous, I just want to enjoy my time with others. Make someone's day a little brighter.
After all, we all need someone at one point. And I want to do just that. I want to be there for people, and I want to see them smile. And be a total goofy nerd with them because that's the fun bit!
I tend to find people who I click with immediately to be instantly called my friend. While we might not know a lot about each other, time will come about where we can get to know each other better. It doesn't have to be forced, or mandatory though. Plus, it's nice when you find out something new about a person you like.
Though, my best friend though? I love him to bits. I can literally do anything with him, and that's the kind of people I want to be surrounded with. The people I want to be friends with. I haven't got any time for useless drama or jealous, I just want to enjoy my time with others. Make someone's day a little brighter.
After all, we all need someone at one point. And I want to do just that. I want to be there for people, and I want to see them smile. And be a total goofy nerd with them because that's the fun bit!
A friend to me, is someone who is loyal, trustworthy, someone I can talk to. A friend is someone that I can trust and open up too. I can be nerdy with them, and enjoy my life with them. It can take quite a while time get to know me, and I have an extremely hard time getting to be friends with new people. In the whole internet life I had, I've only made two friends. But friends are people who I can trust and tell them of my personal issues and help them with theirs. It's all about cooperating with each-other and supporting each-other.
Everyone needs someone to do something with and help each-other out.
Everyone needs someone to do something with and help each-other out.
Someone who is reliable, loyal and trustworthy, who speaks their mind and call you out on your bullshit if they think you've done wrong. I'd rather hear the truth even if it hurts, than be comforted by a lie.
Also, it might sound strange, but... we should be able to argue and be angry with eachother, yet still remain friends. Arguments, even if we fail to keep it civil sometimes, doesn't make people enemies. It just means we've got different point of views.
Also, it might sound strange, but... we should be able to argue and be angry with eachother, yet still remain friends. Arguments, even if we fail to keep it civil sometimes, doesn't make people enemies. It just means we've got different point of views.
One you can go to for anything. That person that could never judge you or look down on you for the things you do or the ways you feel. Who, despite the many times you may mess up, will stay through it because of their value in you. They may not approve of all your choices, but will be there to support you through the troughs until the next peak comes.
Honestly?
It is really dependant on who you are a person (personality/introvert vs extrovert/interests/hobbies/etc etc) and that to me it is incredibly difficult to really ascertain what is 'good' when that terminology is different for everyone else. Apples to Oranges essentially. And that the idealism of good is such a grey area and changes per day or even in situational occurrences. For instance - one day you would think that Susie Q is an awesome friend; you can joke around, laugh, share everything together and more. However after Susie and you have a fight or they keep information from you (thus resulting in you being worried) or even them choosing to spend more time with another person. The idea from good changes into something else and is tagged with other emotions like jealousy, doubt, anger, frustration and more. That a good friend becomes a fair weathered friend or even just an acquaintance that you have passing words with. Even more so is drastic that you become enemies or learn to hate one another based on either a misunderstanding or information that may not be readily available to the public. One again it is apples to oranges.
To me, I tend to have 'tiers' in friendship? I know this sounds incredibly odd or even cruel but at times having this categorization is beneficial for myself in dealing with people. Since historically I have been hurt or even wronged by people who were considered friends. And for the sake of this, it kind of helps me air out 'dirty laundry' for others to understand how my mind views things.
The lowest being that of acquaintance - someone you barely know past pleasantries and public information like their job or prominent interest. And it is incredibly easy for a person to become such if communication is lacking or interests, personalities and the like change. Usually, you have a basic conversation or interact on a very ............surface level and that is about it. Next is what I consider an Fair Weathered Friend. Perhaps this is on the same level or even just a hint lower than being acquainted simply because in my thought processes they are individuals who come around or communicate with you only when it is convenient for them, beneficial or when it is 'sunny' on your side of the fence. That is ok! However, it is incredibly frustrating when this is coupled with 'beating around the bush' tactics when said something within the friendship is towed in for questioning. For instance the age old question of being interested in an RP plot or what you think about something or someone.
Now this tier is muddled for me and that is the difference between being a good friend and a best friend. Ok lets cut the crap - there is no difference. A good or even a best friend is someone who you may not always get along with, someone that you are able to fight with, someone that you have discourse with and at the end of the day you still care about one another and are willing to overcome boundaries and ideas together to have a better understanding of one another and your world. That you are willing to take risks on their behalf, to lend a helping hand and to show sympathy and concern when needed be. This is also inclusive of us taking time out of our day consistently to talk to them even if it is shitty and little; that you are willing to sit there and listen to them just dump their brain from depression and mental anxieties to happiness, unicorns, and rainbows. You may not always have everything and anything in common with the person in question but you view them in such a way that they are like your family if asked.
tl;dr - clove is a gigantic nerd who appreciates quality over quantity in cases such as friends. dang friendship is hard.
It is really dependant on who you are a person (personality/introvert vs extrovert/interests/hobbies/etc etc) and that to me it is incredibly difficult to really ascertain what is 'good' when that terminology is different for everyone else. Apples to Oranges essentially. And that the idealism of good is such a grey area and changes per day or even in situational occurrences. For instance - one day you would think that Susie Q is an awesome friend; you can joke around, laugh, share everything together and more. However after Susie and you have a fight or they keep information from you (thus resulting in you being worried) or even them choosing to spend more time with another person. The idea from good changes into something else and is tagged with other emotions like jealousy, doubt, anger, frustration and more. That a good friend becomes a fair weathered friend or even just an acquaintance that you have passing words with. Even more so is drastic that you become enemies or learn to hate one another based on either a misunderstanding or information that may not be readily available to the public. One again it is apples to oranges.
To me, I tend to have 'tiers' in friendship? I know this sounds incredibly odd or even cruel but at times having this categorization is beneficial for myself in dealing with people. Since historically I have been hurt or even wronged by people who were considered friends. And for the sake of this, it kind of helps me air out 'dirty laundry' for others to understand how my mind views things.
The lowest being that of acquaintance - someone you barely know past pleasantries and public information like their job or prominent interest. And it is incredibly easy for a person to become such if communication is lacking or interests, personalities and the like change. Usually, you have a basic conversation or interact on a very ............surface level and that is about it. Next is what I consider an Fair Weathered Friend. Perhaps this is on the same level or even just a hint lower than being acquainted simply because in my thought processes they are individuals who come around or communicate with you only when it is convenient for them, beneficial or when it is 'sunny' on your side of the fence. That is ok! However, it is incredibly frustrating when this is coupled with 'beating around the bush' tactics when said something within the friendship is towed in for questioning. For instance the age old question of being interested in an RP plot or what you think about something or someone.
Now this tier is muddled for me and that is the difference between being a good friend and a best friend. Ok lets cut the crap - there is no difference. A good or even a best friend is someone who you may not always get along with, someone that you are able to fight with, someone that you have discourse with and at the end of the day you still care about one another and are willing to overcome boundaries and ideas together to have a better understanding of one another and your world. That you are willing to take risks on their behalf, to lend a helping hand and to show sympathy and concern when needed be. This is also inclusive of us taking time out of our day consistently to talk to them even if it is shitty and little; that you are willing to sit there and listen to them just dump their brain from depression and mental anxieties to happiness, unicorns, and rainbows. You may not always have everything and anything in common with the person in question but you view them in such a way that they are like your family if asked.
tl;dr - clove is a gigantic nerd who appreciates quality over quantity in cases such as friends. dang friendship is hard.
I'm sure I could ramble about this but as simply as I can put it, friends are people I'm comfortable around and who are comfortable with me. No forced conversations, sometimes not even any greetings - we can talk about whatever and nobody'll be worried.
A friend to me is someone that you can trust and be able to tell them anything.
Someone that you can lean on when needed.
They help guide you through the darkest of times and help you up when you fall.
Friend is someone you can not talk to for a while but when you do it's like no time has passed.
Soulmate with no romantic feelings, the other side of your coin.
A true friend is family that fate knew you needed.
Someone that you can lean on when needed.
They help guide you through the darkest of times and help you up when you fall.
Friend is someone you can not talk to for a while but when you do it's like no time has passed.
Soulmate with no romantic feelings, the other side of your coin.
A true friend is family that fate knew you needed.
Friends are pieces of your soul that have never been put together.
Jigsaw puzzle pieces that slowly fit together to make you and your life a whole.
Sometimes you fight sometimes you get closer then you mean to, but regardless they are pieces you need.
Without them you feel like you're missing something and are unable to find it or feel fully satisfied.
A friend is someone that will be there for you, but not always be on your side. They are the true honesty and heavy handed mental slap you need---when everyone else decides against it.
Jigsaw puzzle pieces that slowly fit together to make you and your life a whole.
Sometimes you fight sometimes you get closer then you mean to, but regardless they are pieces you need.
Without them you feel like you're missing something and are unable to find it or feel fully satisfied.
A friend is someone that will be there for you, but not always be on your side. They are the true honesty and heavy handed mental slap you need---when everyone else decides against it.
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