Hey there
I'm not too sure about what the point of this is, possibly just for me to rant a bit and know if there's anybody else who have experienced the same.
Often when I've found a partner to roleplay with, they'll start to ignore my messages. Even if I haven't said anything rude nor offensive, they will ignore me and never contact me again. This has happened with both partners and just people I've tried to set up roleplays with.
It really makes me lose my motivation and I really hate being ignored, because I don't think I've done anything wrong.
I'm not too sure about what the point of this is, possibly just for me to rant a bit and know if there's anybody else who have experienced the same.
Often when I've found a partner to roleplay with, they'll start to ignore my messages. Even if I haven't said anything rude nor offensive, they will ignore me and never contact me again. This has happened with both partners and just people I've tried to set up roleplays with.
It really makes me lose my motivation and I really hate being ignored, because I don't think I've done anything wrong.
It’s happened to me so much that I wonder what the hell is wrong with me and my characters. I think it’s just easier for people to ignore someone than to say they aren’t interested anymore.
Being ‘ignored’ is sadly a fact of life in roleplay. I’ve been roleplaying for 13 years, and a very small minority of my roleplays and very partners have stuck around. I’ve also oft learned that, a lot of times, people are simply forgetful.
With that, it’s best to move on and continue writing for writing’s sake. The fact of the matter is that roleplaying is a hobby and it takes two to roleplay. Getting disheartened or dejected at the ones that don’t follow through is energy you could be spending starting new stories or expanding on the ones already going.
Keep at it, friend. Set your sights forward and keep moving that way! Eventually, you’ll find the people that do stick, and you find yourself immersed in lovely stories that last for years if you’re truly serious about roleplay.
With that, it’s best to move on and continue writing for writing’s sake. The fact of the matter is that roleplaying is a hobby and it takes two to roleplay. Getting disheartened or dejected at the ones that don’t follow through is energy you could be spending starting new stories or expanding on the ones already going.
Keep at it, friend. Set your sights forward and keep moving that way! Eventually, you’ll find the people that do stick, and you find yourself immersed in lovely stories that last for years if you’re truly serious about roleplay.
It's happened to me before, too. I don't think this type of experience is really uncommon for roleplayers, it's just how it is. Like Justabitevil said, it's easier for people to not say anything than it is to say that something is bothering them. Or maybe they've simply lost motivation for replying. I still don't really know the solution to this, besides to just keep looking for partners that won't ignore you. It sucks.
Yeah, I feel ya, and when this happens it often has nothing to do with you, but with the person's life. That's what I've found usually. But it always feels like it's you, right? Cause no verbal cues and things. Feel ya!
As someone who has "ignored" messages and also been "ignored" there are too many reasons for people to stop answering others that have nothing to do with that other person.
Depression, self-worth, time, forgetfulness, and a fear of making someone feel rejected by words can be reasons to stop talking to someone else and no longer give an answer.
Taking these things personally will only make the experience worse for yourself as you cannot control the behaviours and actions of others and you are not responsible for them either.
If someone has chosen to stop contact with you but they are still remaining active that you can notice, then perhaps that person may not have the energy to talk. They could be forgetful, or they may just not be feeling very strong in their self worth.
This is an extremely common thing to occur and does not make other writers bad people for doing these things either. Is it fun? No. Does it feel good to the other person? No. Do they want to hurt anyone? No.
As someone who has been involved in online roleplaying since I was 10, now 27, this is a normal behaviour and may have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. Sometimes people dont mix well in energy and that is perfectly okay. No one on the internet is obligated or owes anyone a reason for much of anything because this is just a hobby of escape. They dont have to explain why they dont want to communicate anymore, not do they have to say why they can not communicate anymore.
It is better for yourself to pick things up, brush off, and do your best not to let the situation leave a bad taste in your mouth. It will be okay. You can always send them a message saying, "hey.whenever you feel like talking, you can message me." And go from there. Tell them you hope they're doing okay. Ask them if they are, plain and simple. If they dont respond, you are not responsible for that and it is a good idea to leave those messages archived somewhere and just keep pushing yourself forward.
It will be okay. This is normal for the community.
Depression, self-worth, time, forgetfulness, and a fear of making someone feel rejected by words can be reasons to stop talking to someone else and no longer give an answer.
Taking these things personally will only make the experience worse for yourself as you cannot control the behaviours and actions of others and you are not responsible for them either.
If someone has chosen to stop contact with you but they are still remaining active that you can notice, then perhaps that person may not have the energy to talk. They could be forgetful, or they may just not be feeling very strong in their self worth.
This is an extremely common thing to occur and does not make other writers bad people for doing these things either. Is it fun? No. Does it feel good to the other person? No. Do they want to hurt anyone? No.
As someone who has been involved in online roleplaying since I was 10, now 27, this is a normal behaviour and may have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. Sometimes people dont mix well in energy and that is perfectly okay. No one on the internet is obligated or owes anyone a reason for much of anything because this is just a hobby of escape. They dont have to explain why they dont want to communicate anymore, not do they have to say why they can not communicate anymore.
It is better for yourself to pick things up, brush off, and do your best not to let the situation leave a bad taste in your mouth. It will be okay. You can always send them a message saying, "hey.whenever you feel like talking, you can message me." And go from there. Tell them you hope they're doing okay. Ask them if they are, plain and simple. If they dont respond, you are not responsible for that and it is a good idea to leave those messages archived somewhere and just keep pushing yourself forward.
It will be okay. This is normal for the community.
It's okay. It happens to the best of us. Don't let it affect you your characters or your role-playing. You'll find freinds on this website who will be your freinds who won't ignore you.
JustaBitEvil wrote:
It’s happened to me so much that I wonder what the hell is wrong with me and my characters. I think it’s just easier for people to ignore someone than to say they aren’t interested anymore.
I think you’re right, maybe most people would rather ignore others because they’re scared they’ll offend or hurt their partners by saying they’ve lost interest in the roleplay
Kamizombie wrote:
Being ‘ignored’ is sadly a fact of life in roleplay. I’ve been roleplaying for 13 years, and a very small minority of my roleplays and very partners have stuck around. I’ve also oft learned that, a lot of times, people are simply forgetful.
With that, it’s best to move on and continue writing for writing’s sake. The fact of the matter is that roleplaying is a hobby and it takes two to roleplay. Getting disheartened or dejected at the ones that don’t follow through is energy you could be spending starting new stories or expanding on the ones already going.
Keep at it, friend. Set your sights forward and keep moving that way! Eventually, you’ll find the people that do stick, and you find yourself immersed in lovely stories that last for years if you’re truly serious about roleplay.
With that, it’s best to move on and continue writing for writing’s sake. The fact of the matter is that roleplaying is a hobby and it takes two to roleplay. Getting disheartened or dejected at the ones that don’t follow through is energy you could be spending starting new stories or expanding on the ones already going.
Keep at it, friend. Set your sights forward and keep moving that way! Eventually, you’ll find the people that do stick, and you find yourself immersed in lovely stories that last for years if you’re truly serious about roleplay.
Thank you so much for the motivating words. They are so kind and really just what I needed to hear!
juniestarheart wrote:
It's happened to me before, too. I don't think this type of experience is really uncommon for roleplayers, it's just how it is. Like Justabitevil said, it's easier for people to not say anything than it is to say that something is bothering them. Or maybe they've simply lost motivation for replying. I still don't really know the solution to this, besides to just keep looking for partners that won't ignore you. It sucks.
Yeah, it really does suck. I almost wish before starting a roleplay, that people would come with a heads up if they’ll ignore you or not, so you won’t waste your time and energy by putting it into something that won’t last
Abigail_Austin wrote:
Yeah, I feel ya, and when this happens it often has nothing to do with you, but with the person's life. That's what I've found usually. But it always feels like it's you, right? Cause no verbal cues and things. Feel ya!
It really does, you’re so right!
PrettySir wrote:
As someone who has "ignored" messages and also been "ignored" there are too many reasons for people to stop answering others that have nothing to do with that other person.
Depression, self-worth, time, forgetfulness, and a fear of making someone feel rejected by words can be reasons to stop talking to someone else and no longer give an answer.
Taking these things personally will only make the experience worse for yourself as you cannot control the behaviours and actions of others and you are not responsible for them either.
If someone has chosen to stop contact with you but they are still remaining active that you can notice, then perhaps that person may not have the energy to talk. They could be forgetful, or they may just not be feeling very strong in their self worth.
This is an extremely common thing to occur and does not make other writers bad people for doing these things either. Is it fun? No. Does it feel good to the other person? No. Do they want to hurt anyone? No.
As someone who has been involved in online roleplaying since I was 10, now 27, this is a normal behaviour and may have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. Sometimes people dont mix well in energy and that is perfectly okay. No one on the internet is obligated or owes anyone a reason for much of anything because this is just a hobby of escape. They dont have to explain why they dont want to communicate anymore, not do they have to say why they can not communicate anymore.
It is better for yourself to pick things up, brush off, and do your best not to let the situation leave a bad taste in your mouth. It will be okay. You can always send them a message saying, "hey.whenever you feel like talking, you can message me." And go from there. Tell them you hope they're doing okay. Ask them if they are, plain and simple. If they dont respond, you are not responsible for that and it is a good idea to leave those messages archived somewhere and just keep pushing yourself forward.
It will be okay. This is normal for the community.
Depression, self-worth, time, forgetfulness, and a fear of making someone feel rejected by words can be reasons to stop talking to someone else and no longer give an answer.
Taking these things personally will only make the experience worse for yourself as you cannot control the behaviours and actions of others and you are not responsible for them either.
If someone has chosen to stop contact with you but they are still remaining active that you can notice, then perhaps that person may not have the energy to talk. They could be forgetful, or they may just not be feeling very strong in their self worth.
This is an extremely common thing to occur and does not make other writers bad people for doing these things either. Is it fun? No. Does it feel good to the other person? No. Do they want to hurt anyone? No.
As someone who has been involved in online roleplaying since I was 10, now 27, this is a normal behaviour and may have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. Sometimes people dont mix well in energy and that is perfectly okay. No one on the internet is obligated or owes anyone a reason for much of anything because this is just a hobby of escape. They dont have to explain why they dont want to communicate anymore, not do they have to say why they can not communicate anymore.
It is better for yourself to pick things up, brush off, and do your best not to let the situation leave a bad taste in your mouth. It will be okay. You can always send them a message saying, "hey.whenever you feel like talking, you can message me." And go from there. Tell them you hope they're doing okay. Ask them if they are, plain and simple. If they dont respond, you are not responsible for that and it is a good idea to leave those messages archived somewhere and just keep pushing yourself forward.
It will be okay. This is normal for the community.
It’s very mixed because while I agree, I would still feel like, if I was in that position, that my partner(s) deserve an explanation or at least a reason as to why I wouldn’t have replied to them. I know people don’t have to, but that’s just how I would feel - like I do with that if people ignore me, even if I haven’t given them reason to do so and it might just be because of something in their personal life
Sexysultrybabe wrote:
It's okay. It happens to the best of us. Don't let it affect you your characters or your role-playing. You'll find freinds on this website who will be your freinds who won't ignore you.
You’re probably right - thanks!
As a guy who has quite a few years under his belt as a role player. It's rough sometimes. It could be as simple as your writing style or character. Could be your grammar. Problem is people can be rude I am guilty of it too. Also, people forget sometimes people don't like playing with characters who are Anonymous. Being the case also people forget. Some of us who are...Gluttons for rp punishment - coughs at his long list of stories- Sometimes read a post and mean to reply but totally forget...Sometimes life gets in the way...Sometimes the story kicks off good then..well sinks... Problem is that's being human. But don't fret and don't worry. There are tons of people on here who can be your friends and won't ignore you. Just gotta find em. So don't give up and don't get discouraged 
Cause you're a star in your own way.
Cause you're a star in your own way.
Lanx12 wrote:
As a guy who has quite a few years under his belt as a role player. It's rough sometimes. It could be as simple as your writing style or character. Could be your grammar. Problem is people can be rude I am guilty of it too. Also, people forget sometimes people don't like playing with characters who are Anonymous. Being the case also people forget. Some of us who are...Gluttons for rp punishment - coughs at his long list of stories- Sometimes read a post and mean to reply but totally forget...Sometimes life gets in the way...Sometimes the story kicks off good then..well sinks... Problem is that's being human. But don't fret and don't worry. There are tons of people on here who can be your friends and won't ignore you. Just gotta find em. So don't give up and don't get discouraged Cause you're a star in your own way.
Cause you're a star in your own way.It’s fair to forget to reply - we’re all only human. What I meant was merely being ignored after having checked up on your roleplaying partner and such, not because they forget to reply
This is a very rough topic, because I fall in both categories. I have ignored some of the partners, usually it's people I barely started writing with (probably one or two posts in rp and when I see that it's not working for WHATEVER reason, I bail like a coward) or people I didn't even start writing with. Honestly, people I ignore are people I just don't feel the chemistry with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with them or the plots and their characters, I just think it's the waste of time because it's not going to work and it'll be very bland and I don't want to roleplay if it's going to be bland and that's okay. It's not okay for me to ignore people, however, there's a reason for my silence and it comes from a personal experiences:
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
Queen_of_Hell wrote:
This is a very rough topic, because I fall in both categories. I have ignored some of the partners, usually it's people I barely started writing with (probably one or two posts in rp and when I see that it's not working for WHATEVER reason, I bail like a coward) or people I didn't even start writing with. Honestly, people I ignore are people I just don't feel the chemistry with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with them or the plots and their characters, I just think it's the waste of time because it's not going to work and it'll be very bland and I don't want to roleplay if it's going to be bland and that's okay. It's not okay for me to ignore people, however, there's a reason for my silence and it comes from a personal experiences:
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
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Hey there
I'm not too sure about what the point of this is, possibly just for me to rant a bit and know if there's anybody else who have experienced the same.
Often when I've found a partner to roleplay with, they'll start to ignore my messages. Even if I haven't said anything rude nor offensive, they will ignore me and never contact me again. This has happened with both partners and just people I've tried to set up roleplays with.
It really makes me lose my motivation and I really hate being ignored, because I don't think I've done anything wrong.
I'm not too sure about what the point of this is, possibly just for me to rant a bit and know if there's anybody else who have experienced the same.
Often when I've found a partner to roleplay with, they'll start to ignore my messages. Even if I haven't said anything rude nor offensive, they will ignore me and never contact me again. This has happened with both partners and just people I've tried to set up roleplays with.
It really makes me lose my motivation and I really hate being ignored, because I don't think I've done anything wrong.
Just message me, I dont ignore people ever. I hate it too.
I can only echo most of what has already been said. People who RP also have a tendency to struggle more with social skills or mental illnesses, and fear rejection, so they go on radio silence.
On the other side of the coin, about 50% of the time when I turn someone down for RP, either before we start or after we start, they get pushy or mean. They either keep messaging me with different ideas or characters even when I say I'm passing on RPing with them, or they demand to know why I hate them and so forth. It gets very tiring to have to invest energy into people who jump to conclusions or ignore my wishes, so it's incredibly tempting to ignore them.
I think just accepting this is how things are is not a viable solution. We need to normalize rejection so that people aren't afraid of it. Rejection isn't personal in RP most of the time after all. We also need to respect people when they say no and not push them no matter how much we want to interact.
Maybe if we set the right example and lead with it, we can make a positive change in the community.
On the other side of the coin, about 50% of the time when I turn someone down for RP, either before we start or after we start, they get pushy or mean. They either keep messaging me with different ideas or characters even when I say I'm passing on RPing with them, or they demand to know why I hate them and so forth. It gets very tiring to have to invest energy into people who jump to conclusions or ignore my wishes, so it's incredibly tempting to ignore them.
I think just accepting this is how things are is not a viable solution. We need to normalize rejection so that people aren't afraid of it. Rejection isn't personal in RP most of the time after all. We also need to respect people when they say no and not push them no matter how much we want to interact.
Maybe if we set the right example and lead with it, we can make a positive change in the community.
Queen_of_Hell wrote:
This is a very rough topic, because I fall in both categories. I have ignored some of the partners, usually it's people I barely started writing with (probably one or two posts in rp and when I see that it's not working for WHATEVER reason, I bail like a coward) or people I didn't even start writing with. Honestly, people I ignore are people I just don't feel the chemistry with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with them or the plots and their characters, I just think it's the waste of time because it's not going to work and it'll be very bland and I don't want to roleplay if it's going to be bland and that's okay. It's not okay for me to ignore people, however, there's a reason for my silence and it comes from a personal experiences:
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
I have been ignored by certain roleplayers who wouldn't message me in a freaking long time and only for them to return after a few weeks or even a few months, giving me reasons (which are most of the time excuses) why they disappeared and my usual response is: "It's fine, I'm not interested anymore." but the first thought that goes through my head reading their apology is: I'd rather you didn't message me at all. There were also moments when there were people pressuring me or being angry when I dropped the roleplay or even slightly disagreed with them. I was also dropped by some dude because he didn't read my character profile and when he got into rp, he insulted me and my character, while everything was clearly explained on the character profile for him and he didn't even respect me enough to read it. So it's kind of the mixture of both of those things and I chose the sweet and golden silence.
I stick to my bullshit being this arse that ignores certain roleplayers, I'm not going to hide it or justify it as much, because it sucks, but I could never tell them "No, sorry". It's not because of them, it's because I genuinely feel bad to crush someone's enthusiasm. I will feel like crap whether I tell them "sorry, I don't think this is going to work" or just when run away. While I do drop some people openly, there are some writers I just can't bring myself to write it and read their response afterwards. It0s one of those "I can't look them in the eyes" moments, if you catch my drift.
As for being ignored, honestly, it doesn't bother me as much, except if it was a partner I became friends with. I'm talking about months of chatting outside of roleplay and creating a story together, only for them to disappear, which has happened to me. It hurts like hell, because it feels like losing a friend you spent months with doing things and not knowing a reason they left and it feels like you did something wrong.
So all in all, rejection sucks, ignoring and being ignored sucks, it sucks to be pushy and it sucks to return after a long time of ignorance with excuses. In my opinion, there's no silver lining. I might be wrong, but that's just how I see it. So don't be bummed out too much about it, there are plenty of great writers out there, and if you feel bad about it, no one in the world is worth it. You do what you love and never stop trying. Show those bastards like myself that you can make it.
It definitely sucks and I'm positive most people don't ignore others to be rude - possibly because they'll feel like they're rude by telling somebody that they're not intersted in the roleplay anymore. I really appreciate your words, thank you
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