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So I was having a roleplay with someone and everything was going well. They said they liked my way of roleplay and such and we went on with the roleplay for a good while. Then I noticed that they did not respond for a few days. I messaged them on this Discord only to find that they've blocked me. Then I went and messaged them on rpr to figure out what was going on and apologise if I did anything wrong. I found they blocked me there as well. I read over my last post to figure out if something I did could have offended them. Still haven't the foggiest.
I figure I'd just leave them be, but I would like to know if this sort of thing has happened to anyone else before and how it happened.
iolhantheX

No idea, hasn't happened to me, sorry about that tho :/
Xiaolong Topic Starter

Aye. No worries. ^-^
I figure if someone doesn't want to talk to me, then that means I just have to try and be friendlier to the next person that comes along so that the same thing doesn't happen again.
iolhantheX

I highly doubt it was anything you did. May have been something going on with them irl.
I’m sorry to hear that happened, it happened to me as well. I still have no idea why they blocked me. My best guess is that they either didn’t like my writing or maybe they didn’t want to continue the rp and they didn’t know how to say.
Someone blocked me bc I was rping wrong and they didn't like they way I did my lines as well
LakotaSiouxWarrior

Sorry to hear you were blocked. You are really articulate and eloquent in the forums. I haven't been blocked but I have had other roleplayers defreind me after some roleplays.
DevinGardner

I know how you feel
I've blocked someone. But it's because it's was taking a weired turn. And we just weren't compatible.
Sasha Antonova (played anonymously)

I blocked someone because after saying I was ending our RP because it wasn't working out for me, they felt the need to keep contacting me first with a passive-agressive one liner message, and hours later, a longer message giving me a lecture about RP and how it works and different styles of writing and commented on my ego. Ended up blocking them because I didn't have time for it. I did however let them know I was ending the RP before all that. I just couldn't read their non-spaced, non return break, run together ramble posts. Some people don't take rejection very well.

To my knowledge I haven't been blocked by anyone. I'm sorry Xiaolong that you got blocked without explanation.
Kim Site Admin

Sorry this happened to you; it sucks to not know why someone blocked you. However, it's a fairly common experience.

RPR's official stance is that people have the right to use the block feature for any reason they feel they need to, and they do not have to explain their reasons.

Sometimes the reasons has to do with the person being blocked, sometimes with the person doing the blocking, sometimes a combination of both. It can feel jarring and bad and unfair, and maybe sometimes it is that! The best thing to do is use it as an opportunity to practice handling rejection, do an inventory and see if there's anything you should do different in future (sometimes there is, sometimes there isn't,) and work to move on from it with grace. That's a major life skill!
Xiaolong wrote:
I figure I'd just leave them be

Excellent choice! This is a gentle moderator reminder to everyone who might see this topic that trying to get around a block in any way is considered harassment. This can include asking friends to take messages to the person, creating a new account to talk to the person (this one is double trouble, as each person is only allowed one account anyway!), making public posts directed to or at that person, etc.
Sorry that happened to you, Xiaolong.

Same thing happened to me on a completely other site once. It too was out of nowhere, with no discussion or warning, and before that we had been practically best friends for 4 months and had a high octane RP story going on (I'm talking 10 replies per day average high octane) with plenty of future potential.

Worst of all, I've seen this same writer complain about lack of activity several times since. I don't anticipate ever being taken off said ex-partner's block list, but if I was, I'd do what I do best: be a great writer partner and friend again.

I can't speak for anyone else, but occurrences like these are why I choose to be open and welcoming to any willing partners and honest with anyone I RP with. People absolutely have the rights to blocking and selectivity, but I personally choose not to because the possible consequences of those choices (ie boredom and loneliness) don't appeal to me.
PinkBrat

I block people all the time. Im pretty well known among my circle for blocking at random. Sometimes i decide i don't want to be friends and/or continue our rp. I don't like explaining my reasoning or having confirmation. Blocking stops all of that. Ha. But majority of the time it's because ive lost interest in the story and I dont want to continue. My favorite roleplay i had just a couple weeks ago is now no longer my favorite so that person could very well be blocked soon just because of that. It's terrible but oh well.
Personally in my life I have blocked maybe four people, at most, across all the social media I have ever used, including forums. It takes a long, extended period of aggressive or outright confrontational behavior to finally make me say enough is enough--and even then not all of them remained blocked.

If I ever blocked anyone here I would be sure to try and explain it to them first, or work it out--I do feel it is rude to block someone without at least telling them something of why--or for relatively trivial reasons, which I feel is petty and demeaning to both parties.

Yeah I admit, I have my own issues with pettiness sometimes, but after a bit has gone by I do try to rectify the behavior or at least apologize for making a bozo out of myself.

Also, in my life, as far as I know, I have only ever been the blocked party a handful of times either, no more than I have done the blocking. I guess in the end I have probably been fairly lucky.

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