so,,, i came over from amino because i just can't find any partners that worked out. most use asterisks (i have nothing against people who do, i just don't prefer it) as well as awful grammar or consistency. i often carried the rp.
so i'm probably going to abandon those. i wanted to know how you stop an rp? do you just quit replying, or gently let them know you're no longer interested? i personally just quit replying altogether because the idea of them getting upset just makes me anxious. but i'm considering just getting over it because the person on the other end of it may get anxious w/o getting a reply.
i dunno, what do you do?
so i'm probably going to abandon those. i wanted to know how you stop an rp? do you just quit replying, or gently let them know you're no longer interested? i personally just quit replying altogether because the idea of them getting upset just makes me anxious. but i'm considering just getting over it because the person on the other end of it may get anxious w/o getting a reply.
i dunno, what do you do?
It's usually considered the right thing to do to let them know that you're no longer interested, but I can understand about being anxious and just kinda abandoning them, and I wouldn't blame you if you did that. But the polite thing is to let them know.
Even if ya just write a nice message saying that and then never check that site again (so you don't have to see their reactions), then they'd know. But I did ghost some RPs on rpnation so no judgement here. Lol This is a white lie but you might just say that you prefer this site over that site and let them know instead of mentioning grammar but depends on how much detail you want to give.
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i personally just quit replying altogether because the idea of them getting upset just makes me anxious. but i'm considering just getting over it because the person on the other end of it may get anxious w/o getting a reply.
I hear you and I totally understand this. Something that helps me is to remember a few things:
1. You're your own person and you at all times get to decide what you do. You don't owe anyone anything beyond basic human respect and the right to exist. You deciding to put time and effort into a roleplay is a gift you can withdraw at any time.
2. Someone getting upset at you for making a decision to withdraw from an activity, because you own yourself and you get to make this decision, is not your problem. Again, you don't owe them your time and effort, and if they think you do that's their issue to deal with. It's okay for them to feel bummed out, but it's not okay for them to hold you responsible for managing their feelings.
I do think it's best to let someone know you want to opt out, because it's a form of basic respect to communicate after you made a (temporary) commitment, but I also understand the outrageous negative reactions making this hard to do. I struggle with it myself at times.
But I hope that reaffirming your own ownership over your entire self can help you feel more confident in communicating you're opting out and make it easier to handle any negativity thrown your way over it. You're not doing anything bad, and as long as you're respectful about letting them know you're stepping out of the game, their potential negative response is their problem to deal with.
Who knows, they might just surprise you with a pleasant "Okay, thank you!" instead and give you new positive experiences.
Just be honest. Stuff comes up, or sometimes it's just not working. Don't be a jerk about it, word your rejection kindly but closure is a great thing and letting someone know you've lost interest/muse/steam or just can't devote the energy to it anymore is way better than just running away like a coward.
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