One of these usually pops up, most years, soooo... Hi! Happy pride month, from your local aroace transmasc cryptid! 🌈🦊🏳️⚧️
Feel free to use this as a place to talk about your identity or experiences, share some positivity, recommend queer media, post memes, or whatever else you want, as long as it follows the site's rules, of course! I think venting/ranting should be alright, if you need to get something off your chest, but please put that sort of thing under a collapse or spoiler tag, juuust in case. ^.^
Okay, have fun, go wild!
Feel free to use this as a place to talk about your identity or experiences, share some positivity, recommend queer media, post memes, or whatever else you want, as long as it follows the site's rules, of course! I think venting/ranting should be alright, if you need to get something off your chest, but please put that sort of thing under a collapse or spoiler tag, juuust in case. ^.^
Okay, have fun, go wild!
Special plans for your 2026 Pride?
I'll hopefully be attending the local pride festival, but can't say for sure... I have to figure out when it is first, and if the weather is going to be agonizingly warm... I think it usually ends up being in July, so we'll see.
I'd like to get more cute/cool pride merch though!
I'd like to get more cute/cool pride merch though!
Two years ago my profile said male and y'all didn't know a damn thing.
Last year it said trans masc but I didn't say anything (except my close friends of course.)
This year it says male and I let people figure it out on their own. 😆
Last year it said trans masc but I didn't say anything (except my close friends of course.)
This year it says male and I let people figure it out on their own. 😆
Happy pride month, rpr~
When I saw the site banner change to a rainbow, it was just one more reason to love this place.
When I saw the site banner change to a rainbow, it was just one more reason to love this place.
I asked for one of the days of the local Pride Fest off from work, though the city I'm in does it in July instead of June. Partly an issue of coordinating multiple very different events all trying to fit into the one appropriate event space all around the same time, partly to allow some other things, like Juneteenth, better time to shine.
I admit I mostly just go to it to collect free swag, and currently need to replace a bag that I know is available there every year.
The one I have is getting pretty worn out. It's also just kinda cool to see all the folks there and some of the very expressive ways some of them will dress for it. I might even splurge this year and buy some tasty food while I'm there.
I admit I mostly just go to it to collect free swag, and currently need to replace a bag that I know is available there every year.
The one I have is getting pretty worn out. It's also just kinda cool to see all the folks there and some of the very expressive ways some of them will dress for it. I might even splurge this year and buy some tasty food while I'm there.
Happy Pride Month!!!
Happy pride month!
I'm Aroace as well. I've had an interesting experience figuring out my identity over the years, and I feel like labels can be arbitrary because it doesn't encompass my full, unique experience..
But so far, I'm pretty content on my own. Tried my hand at dating a few times, and It just felt so unnatural. Receiving and trying to give romantic affection is like speaking a different language that I just can't seem to learn. Ironically though, I love to write it, I love to give my peers relationship advice, and I can certainly appreciate an attractive person/character. Am I a walking contradiction? Maybe.
Anyways, regardless of sexuality, I think it's important that everyone find happiness on their own rather than relying on another person for it. Take a page out of the aroace book and learn to love yourself before loving someone else
I'm Aroace as well. I've had an interesting experience figuring out my identity over the years, and I feel like labels can be arbitrary because it doesn't encompass my full, unique experience..
But so far, I'm pretty content on my own. Tried my hand at dating a few times, and It just felt so unnatural. Receiving and trying to give romantic affection is like speaking a different language that I just can't seem to learn. Ironically though, I love to write it, I love to give my peers relationship advice, and I can certainly appreciate an attractive person/character. Am I a walking contradiction? Maybe.
Anyways, regardless of sexuality, I think it's important that everyone find happiness on their own rather than relying on another person for it. Take a page out of the aroace book and learn to love yourself before loving someone else
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Am I a walking contradiction? Maybe.
Mood.
Also, if you're interested, "aegosexual" or "aegoromatic" might be worth looking up? But yeah, the labels are inherently super subjective, and anything that's suppose to apply to more than one person ever is naturally going to miss a lot.
And the adventures in figuring things out can certainly be interesting! I legit thought I was cishet until 26. That's when I bothered to actually look up asexuality, despite having initially heard someone mention it in high school. Few more years to figure out I'm some version of genderfluid. And more recently that I've concluded I'm actually abro, which is kinda the orientation version of genderfluid. This led to the joke that I am
Thank you for creating this space 
In other news, you're all amazing and I love creative writing truly one of the best escapes there is. Come find me between the action-adventure fantasy and the smut aisles~
I suppose I'll write out a little rant.
I came out as transfeminine three years ago at 19 and this transition for me has been the most difficult, beautiful thing I could have ever asked for/experienced. The social push-back has been VISCERAL. I mean, truly, people who are not victims of oppression do not understand what it is like to go into public or open the internet and experience baseless opinions/perceptions from strangers and family alike regarding your own identity. Collectively, I think the world is growing more accepting of queer people, but it's a long and bumpy road ahead.
But I haven't changed my mind. I'm still who I am and no one can change that. All things considered, I live in a blue state and things could be worse. I'm legally allowed to be myself. In other places, that is not the case. My heart goes out to my brothers and sisters stuck in places where they are not free to express themselves and live their lives, as well as the victims of transphobic violence and hateful rhetoric worse than I have it here.
In the turmoil I have found peace in authenticity. Recently I started growing out my facial hair because it's too much work and I simply don't care anymore. Why? Because it's not my job to conform to societal beauty standards. I refuse to be changed by other people, just because they feel the need to say something or point out a feature of mine. All just because I don't fit their image of what a woman should look like in their head. Many people will continue to believe what they believe and it's not really my job to educate them. The best way to educate is to be myself.
Authenticity is so important. Being genuine and vulnerable is difficult, but it also opens up space for other people to be themselves, too. And if I were to shut myself out to all the bad people, then I would honestly just be confirming whatever unfair toxic biases live in their head, left over from whatever extremist brainrot they consumed last. The real ones will find me and befriend me, and the fakers will show their true colors. At the end of the day, gender is a social construct and anyone who thinks about it too hard is doing themselves and others a disservice IMO.
But I haven't changed my mind. I'm still who I am and no one can change that. All things considered, I live in a blue state and things could be worse. I'm legally allowed to be myself. In other places, that is not the case. My heart goes out to my brothers and sisters stuck in places where they are not free to express themselves and live their lives, as well as the victims of transphobic violence and hateful rhetoric worse than I have it here.
In the turmoil I have found peace in authenticity. Recently I started growing out my facial hair because it's too much work and I simply don't care anymore. Why? Because it's not my job to conform to societal beauty standards. I refuse to be changed by other people, just because they feel the need to say something or point out a feature of mine. All just because I don't fit their image of what a woman should look like in their head. Many people will continue to believe what they believe and it's not really my job to educate them. The best way to educate is to be myself.
Authenticity is so important. Being genuine and vulnerable is difficult, but it also opens up space for other people to be themselves, too. And if I were to shut myself out to all the bad people, then I would honestly just be confirming whatever unfair toxic biases live in their head, left over from whatever extremist brainrot they consumed last. The real ones will find me and befriend me, and the fakers will show their true colors. At the end of the day, gender is a social construct and anyone who thinks about it too hard is doing themselves and others a disservice IMO.
In other news, you're all amazing and I love creative writing
truly one of the best escapes there is. Come find me between the action-adventure fantasy and the smut aisles~