EDIT: Done! Thank you!
So... Here's something that gave me food for thought.
I consider myself by all accounts female and straight(heterosexual), I do not like the word or term ‘cis’. I just like to be called by my own given name. (Or as most customer service people get called ‘The lady’). I do not judge anyone who thinks differently. (I’m an avid Ally of the LGBTQ+, I have a lot of friends who are transgender or other.) This is just personal preference!
A few days ago out of the blue, someone asked if I identified as ‘Hologender’
Through some mild extensive googling (because I had to look this up because I have 0 idea what this meant!) it’s someone who is sexually attracted to holographic things.
So.. I laughed. My inner me said “That’s preposterous. I’m not attracted to hologram things or people.” – But then I google image searched Holographic and well…
Now if you don't know me you wouldn't know I am a total and utter sucker for pastel colours, mermaid colours, unicorns etc. I attend comic cons most of the time just to buy art prints from the artists who go there. My entire wall is covered in these colours of various beautiful pictures of art and characters. I have countless amounts of characters made by artists who I gave a pallet to of these colours or have bought designs and adoptables because they were these colours.
My desktop wallpaper!:
EVEN MY BEDDING is currently these colours! Let alone 80% of the items I own!
I don’t feel sexually attracted (or what I perceive as sexual attraction) to these images. I just REALLY love and adore the colours and asthetic.
I also don’t feel like changing my gender to Hologender or anything. I don’t understand nor really wish to be informed about these things. Love is love and your body is your own, that’s enough for me.
But it's really honestly made me think, and it's been dwelling on my mind for a few days. What if I am? What do I do about that? Do I do anything? Do I do nothing and carry on?
I come from a group of friends (outside of my RP life on the internet... far outside
) who would berate the hell out of me if one day I decided to gender myself like this.
I'm even seriously more inspired to loose weight just so I can look pretty af in holographic clothes.
Can anyone advise? Please no hate.
So... Here's something that gave me food for thought.
I consider myself by all accounts female and straight(heterosexual), I do not like the word or term ‘cis’. I just like to be called by my own given name. (Or as most customer service people get called ‘The lady’). I do not judge anyone who thinks differently. (I’m an avid Ally of the LGBTQ+, I have a lot of friends who are transgender or other.) This is just personal preference!
A few days ago out of the blue, someone asked if I identified as ‘Hologender’
Through some mild extensive googling (because I had to look this up because I have 0 idea what this meant!) it’s someone who is sexually attracted to holographic things.
So.. I laughed. My inner me said “That’s preposterous. I’m not attracted to hologram things or people.” – But then I google image searched Holographic and well…
Now if you don't know me you wouldn't know I am a total and utter sucker for pastel colours, mermaid colours, unicorns etc. I attend comic cons most of the time just to buy art prints from the artists who go there. My entire wall is covered in these colours of various beautiful pictures of art and characters. I have countless amounts of characters made by artists who I gave a pallet to of these colours or have bought designs and adoptables because they were these colours.
My desktop wallpaper!:
EVEN MY BEDDING is currently these colours! Let alone 80% of the items I own!
I don’t feel sexually attracted (or what I perceive as sexual attraction) to these images. I just REALLY love and adore the colours and asthetic.
I also don’t feel like changing my gender to Hologender or anything. I don’t understand nor really wish to be informed about these things. Love is love and your body is your own, that’s enough for me.
But it's really honestly made me think, and it's been dwelling on my mind for a few days. What if I am? What do I do about that? Do I do anything? Do I do nothing and carry on?
I come from a group of friends (outside of my RP life on the internet... far outside
) who would berate the hell out of me if one day I decided to gender myself like this.I'm even seriously more inspired to loose weight just so I can look pretty af in holographic clothes.
Can anyone advise? Please no hate.
I mean to me it just sounds like you really like those colors but if you want to be like that we understand a judge you (:
I am Generation X so don't get all the new gender labels either, necessarily but I'm a lesbian and imho a sexual orientation has to do with sexual attraction. For example, some people identify as "ecosexuals" because they are sexually aroused by nature. Trees, waterfalls, stuff like that. I don't pretend to understand it. It sounds really odd to me. But still, it's about the sexual attraction part...I think. Like heterosexual means attracted to the opposite sex, asexual means not sexually attracted to any gender, etc. Now I personally really like the color blue and blue tones, and purples, as opposed to reds. But it has nothing to do with my sexual orientation. Maybe society is trying too hard to sexualize everything...even colors? Freud did say everything is about sex, but, I never really believed that. Lol. In your case, I don't think it's a sexual orientation. Maybe there are people for whom it is. Maybe you would have some things in common with those people. But I think everyone's just trying to oversexualize everything.
Holographic prints are sure pretty though!
I have a thing for stuff that glows. Glowsticks, blacklight posters, whatever. I think it's something about the mood it sets. It's soothing. Nothing like soft blue light...it's mysterious, conjures up images of fantasy worlds that are mystical, spiritual. I think maybe we think of blue as spiritual because of the sky and the ocean, two classical realms that have been places of mystery for human beings. It's like...the Deep. The subconscious mind. I think blue triggers the mysterious levels of the subconscious mind. Or something. The colors of the chakras and stuff reflect that idea too, I think.
Holographic prints are sure pretty though!
I have a thing for stuff that glows. Glowsticks, blacklight posters, whatever. I think it's something about the mood it sets. It's soothing. Nothing like soft blue light...it's mysterious, conjures up images of fantasy worlds that are mystical, spiritual. I think maybe we think of blue as spiritual because of the sky and the ocean, two classical realms that have been places of mystery for human beings. It's like...the Deep. The subconscious mind. I think blue triggers the mysterious levels of the subconscious mind. Or something. The colors of the chakras and stuff reflect that idea too, I think.
Thank you very much this was incredibly insightful and reassuring. I share your views exactly. From my online friends im heavily oversaturated with numerous genders and it makes me feel sometimes as if, and don't take this the wrong way, 'The odd one out'.
So I began to wonder if I had missed something, what the social norm even was. I appreciate your time and comment
So I began to wonder if I had missed something, what the social norm even was. I appreciate your time and comment
I suspect that "hologender" and "holosexual" were created more as kinda a jokey way of saying you just really like those things. That said... that would also imply the term is harmful, even if inadvertently, by making more ridiculous something that a lot of people already have trouble accepting.
An aside: from what I've seen, "ecosexual" isn't an orientation so much as a stunt. I admit I've only seen a little about it, but what I have seen expressed that they weren't really attracted to nature, but were doing a sort of hippy "free love" thing and interacting with nature naked as a way of trying to bring more attention to the environment.
I think that for a person who does experience those attractions, it would probably qualify more as a fetish, since I think orientation is more about what sort of people you are (or aren't) attracted to. A fetish is not a bad thing, mind you. Certain fetishes can certainly be harmful, but there's nothing wrong with generally having a fetish. It's also a common idea in the ace community that a fetish doesn't have to inherently be sexual, either, but can just be something you really, really like.
An aside: from what I've seen, "ecosexual" isn't an orientation so much as a stunt. I admit I've only seen a little about it, but what I have seen expressed that they weren't really attracted to nature, but were doing a sort of hippy "free love" thing and interacting with nature naked as a way of trying to bring more attention to the environment.
I think that for a person who does experience those attractions, it would probably qualify more as a fetish, since I think orientation is more about what sort of people you are (or aren't) attracted to. A fetish is not a bad thing, mind you. Certain fetishes can certainly be harmful, but there's nothing wrong with generally having a fetish. It's also a common idea in the ace community that a fetish doesn't have to inherently be sexual, either, but can just be something you really, really like.
Thank you for your time and response on this as well. It is refreshing to hear this from a good perspective and a clear head. I appreciate both of your words.
I'm happy to say now advice well and truly received. Please do not reply to this anymore.
I'm happy to say now advice well and truly received. Please do not reply to this anymore.