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I don't know why did I made this forum at first but I guess I just needed to write something a little bit to relief from all that.
I know what people think about all that rp dramas but it really sucks that someone leaves you hanging like for two or three month but worse is when someone leaves without warning.
I don't know what others would say about that but I think that we humans at least deserve slight respect to be warned or explained what kind of a problem do they have with our style or writing instead of dropping us and leaving confused.
It's sucks when you think that your rp partner enjoys rp with you(and often mentions that they love this rp) and think of making many good new progresses in it and etc and one day when you check the messages you find yourself alone in the chat.
Sometimes it doesn't feel that bad when your partner leaves you but when you truly love what you do it's hurts finding out that they have dropped the rp WITHOUT saying a single word or good bye.
It's just so rude and heart breaking that it sometimes makes me cry, thinking that every my rp partner will one day leave like that when they get bored and lost interest in the rp. It's hurts when you put all your heart in your work and at the end nobody respects it......I don't know I guess I shouldn't feel this way about such usual problem but it really hurts me and makes me feel less enjoyable about continuing role playing.....:'(
(Sorry everyone for my bad English)
GlitterPrincess

It sucks. I know. I've had it happen quite a bit. I've also done it to people myself. You just got to remember that sometimes things happen in life that make them unable to say anything at all. Accident, illness, death (I've lost a couple good partners for those reasons). Sometimes there's other reasons.

Now if they're online and still active with other stories then... they're just @$!#*%? !$@*#. Anywho, I learned not to get too attached to my stories so even when the best ones fall through I'm not as butt hurt over it.
LotusFlower Topic Starter

I know, I just can't get over the fact that they leave me without letting me know. If they explained reason of leaving( I'm telling you most of the time life has nothing to do with it cause they lie, so often. They talk about something but then they hurt me the same way they were.) It's just sucks that you wait, respect their life and don't send messages every day about why aren't they replying and when you check on them you are blocked. But why? I have never been rude to anyone or cursed or harassed anyone then why do they block me? Maybe because they know that I will ask them to explain the reason why did they do that and that they have nothing to excuse themself with.
Some people prefer to look at RP as a stress-free hobby, and when it comes to communicating over changing interests or shifts of focus, suddenly it becomes stressful. The natural thought there is that if it's less stressful for them to ghost, it will be less stressful for the other party. (If they don't see it happening, it's no biggie, in other words.)

It's one of the most common upsets in RP. I think that, like relationships with friends come and go, RP threads are going to be the same. On the one hand I understand being very upset, and it sounds very frustrating that you're being blocked so that you don't have an avenue to work things out and say goodbyes... but on the other, it's not generally a good idea to take those frustrations to public areas where the vagueness + venting combine to leave people wondering what happened.

I'm wondering if you've got a good friend or two that you could approach to ask--in private--if there's anything they can honestly tell you that you might be doing that's gotten you blocked by more than one person? They may not feel comfortable with telling you, but asking and making changes might help you to retain your RP threads longer, even if it hurts to make changes now?

Not sure what to say, but I hope you get some resolution.
LotusFlower Topic Starter

Thank you for advice.
Well actually in this time it was first time that someone did that to me so I don't know. We talked about so many things and discussed so many stuffs and every time he asked me to change something and so I did as requested but what gotten into him so suddenly I don't know.
I really don't know the reason.
LotusFlower Topic Starter

I guess I'm just to boring to talk to and not good enough to keep the rp going. Probably I'm not at the level they are and that why they push me aside.
Maybe? Maybe their people skills aren't up to snuff with their opinion of their writing. Maybe they were triggered by something that you felt was fine and over-reacted. It's hard to say, but if that's the case it's best to let it go. :( Take the night off and do something else. You can pick up the reins and try again tomorrow!

If you want to commiserate you can also take things to the bad RP experiences thread. It might help to read other peoples' experiences to know that you're not alone?
LotusFlower Topic Starter

Thank you, I'll try to do my best next time :)

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