Hi! I recently came across another persons post on here where they talked about how one regain their confidence after not having practiced writing for a while.
This lead me to doubt something I've thought about for a bit.
To make multiple long stories into a rather short one, I've had my fair share of experiences with being ignored and ghosted on this website. I assume that I'm not the only one that has happened to, which is why I want to ask:
If it has happened to you, how did you regain your confidence in reaching out to more roleplayers and starting new roleplays? Do share your experiences and tips, I have a feeling that I'm far from the only one who could benefit from it c:
This lead me to doubt something I've thought about for a bit.
To make multiple long stories into a rather short one, I've had my fair share of experiences with being ignored and ghosted on this website. I assume that I'm not the only one that has happened to, which is why I want to ask:
If it has happened to you, how did you regain your confidence in reaching out to more roleplayers and starting new roleplays? Do share your experiences and tips, I have a feeling that I'm far from the only one who could benefit from it c:
I would still be interested if anybody has something to say about this!
Hi Sunflower,
It happened to me several times (I even had someone change their character mid-play, with new name and everything, completely unrelated to the ongoing story which obviously was dropped). But that shouldn't affect your own writing and characters. Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reason, it could be loss of interest, IRL life event, not being inspired for a long while, anything. I am not proud of it, but I also took a very long while to reply to some threads, suggested an idea for writing only to drop it and not follow up, and somehow forgot about a thread because of inbox piling up. Many of us have very busy lives, and so I try not to assume anything about anyone. We aren't perfect, and sometimes can be too ashamed or afraid of conflict and negativity to just say to the other: "this isn't working for me". It can be literally anything, but in 99% of cases, it will not be related to you or your writing.
I say 99% because I did stop a roleplay with someone who typed so sloppily and without bothering to correct any grammar and typos that my mind hurt only by reading their posts. But that was only after I tried to reach out and explain the problem at least twice.
The best way to regain confidence is to write, and you could start by developing the backstory for the characters you wanted to write with, writing some journal posts for them, or even a starter for an LFRP post. Sometimes you feel inspired and sometimes not so much, and that's okay too. I also try to create or find visuals or soundtracks for my characters, and generally build them up a bit. That puts me in a good mood and in that particular mindset. You love your characters best, right? So do them a favor and write for them, for them to gain a life of their own and grow. Like in real life, other characters are just passing by, but even short interactions could be meaningful.
It happened to me several times (I even had someone change their character mid-play, with new name and everything, completely unrelated to the ongoing story which obviously was dropped). But that shouldn't affect your own writing and characters. Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reason, it could be loss of interest, IRL life event, not being inspired for a long while, anything. I am not proud of it, but I also took a very long while to reply to some threads, suggested an idea for writing only to drop it and not follow up, and somehow forgot about a thread because of inbox piling up. Many of us have very busy lives, and so I try not to assume anything about anyone. We aren't perfect, and sometimes can be too ashamed or afraid of conflict and negativity to just say to the other: "this isn't working for me". It can be literally anything, but in 99% of cases, it will not be related to you or your writing.
I say 99% because I did stop a roleplay with someone who typed so sloppily and without bothering to correct any grammar and typos that my mind hurt only by reading their posts. But that was only after I tried to reach out and explain the problem at least twice.
The best way to regain confidence is to write, and you could start by developing the backstory for the characters you wanted to write with, writing some journal posts for them, or even a starter for an LFRP post. Sometimes you feel inspired and sometimes not so much, and that's okay too. I also try to create or find visuals or soundtracks for my characters, and generally build them up a bit. That puts me in a good mood and in that particular mindset. You love your characters best, right? So do them a favor and write for them, for them to gain a life of their own and grow. Like in real life, other characters are just passing by, but even short interactions could be meaningful.
I try not to hold it against the person. Shite happens, and not all things work out. I don't take it as a blow to my own confidence, and try to just understand that not all writers flow together, not all stories hold up. It's not usually (usually) either person's fault or writing style. Things just happen, and some happen to fade. Like Dorian said, you rarely know what's happening with the person or caused them to stop. Lack of motivation, dislike for one's own character (they may be shy or embarrassed about it?), mental issues, physical injuries, all sorts of things. Sometimes interest is just lost, and that's normal human nature too. It's not good to ghost or leave without a word, but try not to take it to heart. Humans are unpredictable creatures, who are frankly not good at communicating haha.
Try not to take any of it to heart! It's not about you, most often. Even if it is, that's one person's opinion— that shouldn't dictate your feelings! If you do lose confidence, I agree with Dorian. You should just write and enjoy your own writing before putting it out there. Regain your faith in yourself, and next time try to avoid letting someone tear that confidence down! If you believe you're amazing, then you will be~
Try not to take any of it to heart! It's not about you, most often. Even if it is, that's one person's opinion— that shouldn't dictate your feelings! If you do lose confidence, I agree with Dorian. You should just write and enjoy your own writing before putting it out there. Regain your faith in yourself, and next time try to avoid letting someone tear that confidence down! If you believe you're amazing, then you will be~
DorianM wrote:
Hi Sunflower,
It happened to me several times (I even had someone change their character mid-play, with new name and everything, completely unrelated to the ongoing story which obviously was dropped). But that shouldn't affect your own writing and characters. Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reason, it could be loss of interest, IRL life event, not being inspired for a long while, anything. I am not proud of it, but I also took a very long while to reply to some threads, suggested an idea for writing only to drop it and not follow up, and somehow forgot about a thread because of inbox piling up. Many of us have very busy lives, and so I try not to assume anything about anyone. We aren't perfect, and sometimes can be too ashamed or afraid of conflict and negativity to just say to the other: "this isn't working for me". It can be literally anything, but in 99% of cases, it will not be related to you or your writing.
I say 99% because I did stop a roleplay with someone who typed so sloppily and without bothering to correct any grammar and typos that my mind hurt only by reading their posts. But that was only after I tried to reach out and explain the problem at least twice.
The best way to regain confidence is to write, and you could start by developing the backstory for the characters you wanted to write with, writing some journal posts for them, or even a starter for an LFRP post. Sometimes you feel inspired and sometimes not so much, and that's okay too. I also try to create or find visuals or soundtracks for my characters, and generally build them up a bit. That puts me in a good mood and in that particular mindset. You love your characters best, right? So do them a favor and write for them, for them to gain a life of their own and grow. Like in real life, other characters are just passing by, but even short interactions could be meaningful.
It happened to me several times (I even had someone change their character mid-play, with new name and everything, completely unrelated to the ongoing story which obviously was dropped). But that shouldn't affect your own writing and characters. Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reason, it could be loss of interest, IRL life event, not being inspired for a long while, anything. I am not proud of it, but I also took a very long while to reply to some threads, suggested an idea for writing only to drop it and not follow up, and somehow forgot about a thread because of inbox piling up. Many of us have very busy lives, and so I try not to assume anything about anyone. We aren't perfect, and sometimes can be too ashamed or afraid of conflict and negativity to just say to the other: "this isn't working for me". It can be literally anything, but in 99% of cases, it will not be related to you or your writing.
I say 99% because I did stop a roleplay with someone who typed so sloppily and without bothering to correct any grammar and typos that my mind hurt only by reading their posts. But that was only after I tried to reach out and explain the problem at least twice.
The best way to regain confidence is to write, and you could start by developing the backstory for the characters you wanted to write with, writing some journal posts for them, or even a starter for an LFRP post. Sometimes you feel inspired and sometimes not so much, and that's okay too. I also try to create or find visuals or soundtracks for my characters, and generally build them up a bit. That puts me in a good mood and in that particular mindset. You love your characters best, right? So do them a favor and write for them, for them to gain a life of their own and grow. Like in real life, other characters are just passing by, but even short interactions could be meaningful.
Thank you for your honestly and clearance. I’m sorry for your negative experiences but also grateful for your tip and advice; I think it’s a good idea to write for one self!
RainbowPitch wrote:
I try not to hold it against the person. Shite happens, and not all things work out. I don't take it as a blow to my own confidence, and try to just understand that not all writers flow together, not all stories hold up. It's not usually (usually) either person's fault or writing style. Things just happen, and some happen to fade. Like Dorian said, you rarely know what's happening with the person or caused them to stop. Lack of motivation, dislike for one's own character (they may be shy or embarrassed about it?), mental issues, physical injuries, all sorts of things. Sometimes interest is just lost, and that's normal human nature too. It's not good to ghost or leave without a word, but try not to take it to heart. Humans are unpredictable creatures, who are frankly not good at communicating haha.
Try not to take any of it to heart! It's not about you, most often. Even if it is, that's one person's opinion— that shouldn't dictate your feelings! If you do lose confidence, I agree with Dorian. You should just write and enjoy your own writing before putting it out there. Regain your faith in yourself, and next time try to avoid letting someone tear that confidence down! If you believe you're amazing, then you will be~
Try not to take any of it to heart! It's not about you, most often. Even if it is, that's one person's opinion— that shouldn't dictate your feelings! If you do lose confidence, I agree with Dorian. You should just write and enjoy your own writing before putting it out there. Regain your faith in yourself, and next time try to avoid letting someone tear that confidence down! If you believe you're amazing, then you will be~
You’re completely right - you can’t be best friends with everybody and that’s just how the world is.
Thank you for the encouraging words; they were very much needed. Sometimes it’s good to be reminded of what you mentioned and what you said truly helped (:
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