Hello to everyone,
This is not a thread discussing about wrong or right of doing something.
I just feel a bit sad about some things going on, here on the forum.
This is a thread about me, this little doe seeking its way through the meanders of RP'ing.
I know I'm not perfect, I do make mistakes. Sorry for all the blunders I've done. Not all because of my language skills, it's not an excuse.
But there's one blunder this silly clumsy doe has done, she doesn't understand.
Yes at a moment I got into a discussion I regret, I apologized, please again excuse me for that. I was never rude (ok I tried not to be), even when sending a private message to said protagonist of the discussion.
At another point, well, I got slightly angry at some answer done to this doe, it was rude, sorry, really rude and displaced. I never said anything, never requested moderation and never wanted anyone to be banned, especially not because of me. This doe is harmless, doesn't want any arguing with anyone, just wants to write (more or less) peacefully on a forum that is very (and I mean VERY) inviting and I'm feeling good.
Anyone is free to ask her opinion, quest for her help or just role-play, ANYONE.
Yet, this doe is blocked out of nowhere, without explanation, without even the possibility to eventually explain the blunder she did. As to be blocked you need to have done a really big mistake. You need to be at least WRONG.
So: What mistake? What's wrong?
Thanks a lot
@ the moderation Team : I'm not judging someone, I'm not accusing, I'm not angry, I only want to know. Thank you for not deleting this right away
This is not a thread discussing about wrong or right of doing something.
I just feel a bit sad about some things going on, here on the forum.
This is a thread about me, this little doe seeking its way through the meanders of RP'ing.
I know I'm not perfect, I do make mistakes. Sorry for all the blunders I've done. Not all because of my language skills, it's not an excuse.
But there's one blunder this silly clumsy doe has done, she doesn't understand.
Yes at a moment I got into a discussion I regret, I apologized, please again excuse me for that. I was never rude (ok I tried not to be), even when sending a private message to said protagonist of the discussion.
At another point, well, I got slightly angry at some answer done to this doe, it was rude, sorry, really rude and displaced. I never said anything, never requested moderation and never wanted anyone to be banned, especially not because of me. This doe is harmless, doesn't want any arguing with anyone, just wants to write (more or less) peacefully on a forum that is very (and I mean VERY) inviting and I'm feeling good.
Anyone is free to ask her opinion, quest for her help or just role-play, ANYONE.
Yet, this doe is blocked out of nowhere, without explanation, without even the possibility to eventually explain the blunder she did. As to be blocked you need to have done a really big mistake. You need to be at least WRONG.
So: What mistake? What's wrong?
Thanks a lot
@ the moderation Team : I'm not judging someone, I'm not accusing, I'm not angry, I only want to know. Thank you for not deleting this right away
Hi Fantax,
We don’t know each other and I don’t exactly know what is going on, but I know you just tried to do something very kind for me and I just hope you give yourself a break.
Misunderstanding do and will happen as someone who usually prone open OOC communication most of the time, there are times when a person feels so uncomfortable that there are things that seem to get out of their control. Whatever someone else chooses to do is not on you. You can only control you and honestly sometimes not even that when stress, anxiety and RL throws you a lot of curve balls all at once.
Stepping away for a while is sometimes the best thing. I don’t know if what I”m saying helps any, but at the end of the day, you’re only responsible for yourself. ❤️
We don’t know each other and I don’t exactly know what is going on, but I know you just tried to do something very kind for me and I just hope you give yourself a break.
Misunderstanding do and will happen as someone who usually prone open OOC communication most of the time, there are times when a person feels so uncomfortable that there are things that seem to get out of their control. Whatever someone else chooses to do is not on you. You can only control you and honestly sometimes not even that when stress, anxiety and RL throws you a lot of curve balls all at once.
Stepping away for a while is sometimes the best thing. I don’t know if what I”m saying helps any, but at the end of the day, you’re only responsible for yourself. ❤️
Thanks Autumnfox, very kind of you.
I see what you mean, I understand totally, I can handle anything that goes making IRL out bounds. I understand totally when someone feels uncomfortable with my doe, no problem. But just block after pages, pages of wonderful play, without a word….makes me feel sad and unaware of what went wrong.
I can’t let down all those I interact with now, few things are still going on very well. So I won’t just step back, sorry to all who want that. I don’t mean autumnfox with that, he/she/they only gave a very good advice.
Thanks again
I see what you mean, I understand totally, I can handle anything that goes making IRL out bounds. I understand totally when someone feels uncomfortable with my doe, no problem. But just block after pages, pages of wonderful play, without a word….makes me feel sad and unaware of what went wrong.
I can’t let down all those I interact with now, few things are still going on very well. So I won’t just step back, sorry to all who want that. I don’t mean autumnfox with that, he/she/they only gave a very good advice.
Thanks again
No problem and honestly, quality really is better than quantity. Focus on the role plays you have and are enjoying and the rest will come naturally.
❤️

A couple things to consider.
1. The Mods of RPR are very kind and patient, and will absolutely not jump to banning someone just because someone reported they were kinda rude. They try to understand what happened; they help people who have trouble communicating their issues; and sending a report doesn't create some nasty record for the person reported. In fact, the easiest and simplest way to take care of one of your own posts that was misplaced or that you want deleted or permanently closed is to self-report your own post! There have also been a number of times where I reported a person or a post because:
2. Different people have different standards for blocking. Yes, some only use it for extreme cases. There are also those who use it to simply remove folks they feel could be risks to interact with, such as people who play themes they aren't comfortable with or who say things that, for whatever reason, strikes them as a red flag. I've actually been blocked by at least one person who I'd never even interacted with and didn't know existed prior to stumbling face-first into an inability to join others I knew posting in a game topic that person had created - I actually thought it was a bug at first, and when I found out I'd actually been blocked, it was indeed very confusing and left me wondering if a mistake had been made or what I might have done wrong. Ultimately, though, it was something that person had done simply because it helped them to feel more safe. In an ideal world, we'd all feel comfortable enough to talk things over with each other, but many people have many reasons to be wary of many things, and in a place meant for fun and casual socialization, it's understandable to prefer the easier option of just blocking a potential risk instead of stressing over it.
Being blocked doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Sometimes it just means y'all aren't each other's people, and that's okay.
Yes, it stings, but everyone has people they just won't be able to vibe with.
1. The Mods of RPR are very kind and patient, and will absolutely not jump to banning someone just because someone reported they were kinda rude. They try to understand what happened; they help people who have trouble communicating their issues; and sending a report doesn't create some nasty record for the person reported. In fact, the easiest and simplest way to take care of one of your own posts that was misplaced or that you want deleted or permanently closed is to self-report your own post! There have also been a number of times where I reported a person or a post because:
- it seemed misplaced and like it might fit better elsewhere.
- I was worried for the individual's mental health and safety, despite no rule breaking, and felt a check-in might be good.
- I suspected the account might be a bot (and probably at least half those cases, the mod has responded to me explaining they'd checked the person out but believed something else was going on, while other times there were much more obvious signs that they quickly agreed with).
2. Different people have different standards for blocking. Yes, some only use it for extreme cases. There are also those who use it to simply remove folks they feel could be risks to interact with, such as people who play themes they aren't comfortable with or who say things that, for whatever reason, strikes them as a red flag. I've actually been blocked by at least one person who I'd never even interacted with and didn't know existed prior to stumbling face-first into an inability to join others I knew posting in a game topic that person had created - I actually thought it was a bug at first, and when I found out I'd actually been blocked, it was indeed very confusing and left me wondering if a mistake had been made or what I might have done wrong. Ultimately, though, it was something that person had done simply because it helped them to feel more safe. In an ideal world, we'd all feel comfortable enough to talk things over with each other, but many people have many reasons to be wary of many things, and in a place meant for fun and casual socialization, it's understandable to prefer the easier option of just blocking a potential risk instead of stressing over it.
Being blocked doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Sometimes it just means y'all aren't each other's people, and that's okay.

You seem to have some potentially skewed perceptions about what being blocked means, why someone might do it, or what reporting stuff to the mods is for.
Zelphyr hit the nail on the head. People have very different standards for blocking. It doesn't mean you did something shockingly wrong. They also don't really owe you an explanation if the relationship wasn't strong enough in their eyes to invest the time and emotional energy into fixing it. For some people, that emotional energy investment can be absolutely huge, and they're very within their rights to not make it.
I know it can feel a bit crappy and shocking, but it's just one of those things. Even the nicest of people aren't universally loved.
I'm going to lock this post now, since all that needs to be said has been said and we're not going to shame folks for using the features of the site in acceptable ways.
Zelphyr hit the nail on the head. People have very different standards for blocking. It doesn't mean you did something shockingly wrong. They also don't really owe you an explanation if the relationship wasn't strong enough in their eyes to invest the time and emotional energy into fixing it. For some people, that emotional energy investment can be absolutely huge, and they're very within their rights to not make it.
I know it can feel a bit crappy and shocking, but it's just one of those things. Even the nicest of people aren't universally loved.
I'm going to lock this post now, since all that needs to be said has been said and we're not going to shame folks for using the features of the site in acceptable ways.
