Hi, so, I'm sorry for coming outta the blue but I do need someone to talk to and while I don't wanna put my emotional baggage on others, I've reached a point in my life where I kind of need to otherwise it weighs on me, if that makes sense?
I've come to offer an explanation for my absence and inconsistency and also to seek some help, a listening ear, etc.
Sooo yeah, I just have fitting-in issues, I guess. First time I've come into contact with reasonless bullying in my life and I'm nearly 20, so I, understandably, feel like a kid for letting it get me so down at such an age. I supposed I've just been guarded until now (had a decent group of friends so I gravitated away from new interactions because the relations I had were sufficient). Now that I'm away from them (we split up in different cities and countries and I'm figuratively on my own) I have to meet new people, get to know them, form a community, and I've been working to put myself out there but I've run into people that I've more or less protected myself from until now.
It's immature to be so upset about not being accepted or well-received (or received at all, in this case), but being an introvert has, thus far, meant I could just retreat in my shell whenever I would sense someone had bad intentions or an unpleasant, confrontational personality. I had people I could count on. Now I don't. It's harder for me to get over things that a normal, social, well-adjusted adult would and I feel moderately ashamed of myself for it.
I could be overthinking it or perhaps the specific person's approach is tactless and I don't understand their humour. But I don't take well to being insulted out of the blue and made fun of. Especially by the people I'm likely to spend six years with, studying and getting to know. And especially when I've put so much effort into not being a lil' awkward wallflower and trying to fit in.
I don't want to be the odd one out yet I feel like a target whenever I put myself out there. I quite literally am targeted I think. A person going out of their way to bother me and make my day shit - it gets to me. It's affecting my mood - I've been angrier and more confrontational lately (wallflowers have their boiling points) and that just draws negative attention to me, which I don't want.
Tl;dr: I don't know how to adult right now because people are idiots and I can't deal with reasonless bullying and rudeness and people going out of their way to confront me. I need some adult advice.
It's been affecting my inspiration and my gusto for roleplaying, which I apologize greatly for. I've just been going through an integration shock right now - new city, less than acceptant people, a big academic workload and nobody to lean on except for a few people's very uplifting, consistent online presence, which I'm very thankful for. (Nikina, Shame, Fadesympathy, Maow, thank you guys)
I've come to offer an explanation for my absence and inconsistency and also to seek some help, a listening ear, etc.
Sooo yeah, I just have fitting-in issues, I guess. First time I've come into contact with reasonless bullying in my life and I'm nearly 20, so I, understandably, feel like a kid for letting it get me so down at such an age. I supposed I've just been guarded until now (had a decent group of friends so I gravitated away from new interactions because the relations I had were sufficient). Now that I'm away from them (we split up in different cities and countries and I'm figuratively on my own) I have to meet new people, get to know them, form a community, and I've been working to put myself out there but I've run into people that I've more or less protected myself from until now.
It's immature to be so upset about not being accepted or well-received (or received at all, in this case), but being an introvert has, thus far, meant I could just retreat in my shell whenever I would sense someone had bad intentions or an unpleasant, confrontational personality. I had people I could count on. Now I don't. It's harder for me to get over things that a normal, social, well-adjusted adult would and I feel moderately ashamed of myself for it.
I could be overthinking it or perhaps the specific person's approach is tactless and I don't understand their humour. But I don't take well to being insulted out of the blue and made fun of. Especially by the people I'm likely to spend six years with, studying and getting to know. And especially when I've put so much effort into not being a lil' awkward wallflower and trying to fit in.
I don't want to be the odd one out yet I feel like a target whenever I put myself out there. I quite literally am targeted I think. A person going out of their way to bother me and make my day shit - it gets to me. It's affecting my mood - I've been angrier and more confrontational lately (wallflowers have their boiling points) and that just draws negative attention to me, which I don't want.
Tl;dr: I don't know how to adult right now because people are idiots and I can't deal with reasonless bullying and rudeness and people going out of their way to confront me. I need some adult advice.
It's been affecting my inspiration and my gusto for roleplaying, which I apologize greatly for. I've just been going through an integration shock right now - new city, less than acceptant people, a big academic workload and nobody to lean on except for a few people's very uplifting, consistent online presence, which I'm very thankful for. (Nikina, Shame, Fadesympathy, Maow, thank you guys)
Hey. I went through some very similar things in my first year of uni, I can understand. If you wanna talk, then feel free to PM me or Skype chat me. I hope things get better, dear.
I'm always open if you need someone to talk to.
Whoa, man, it's okay to ask for people to talk to, I'll always be open to talk to you about stuff like this, I'm in fact going to school for counseling right now! I won't be your councelor, but I'll always be willing to be a good friend that you can confide in.
I'm so sorry about how you're feeling,and honestly, I have the same feelings even now! I've always had a hard time fitting in, and part of it is due to me being adopted. So I completely get what it's like to feel bullied, even as an adult.
If you need anything, feel free to shoot me a message! I'm always on!
I'm so sorry about how you're feeling,and honestly, I have the same feelings even now! I've always had a hard time fitting in, and part of it is due to me being adopted. So I completely get what it's like to feel bullied, even as an adult.
If you need anything, feel free to shoot me a message! I'm always on!
I gotchu fam 
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