I know it isn't really related to any of those topics, but huge amounts of advices would be nice. 
I do need some support & comfort right now and I would be so glad to hear some advice.
..Ever since I started my second year of being in this school (I transferred from an another school), my mental issues had gotten more worse and I started to become more isolated from the society. I do have anxiety problems, along with depression. A hint of mild Asperger's too, but it isn't diagnosed yet. I get frustrated over small things, and I don't like making new friends due to the trust issues I have towards them. I have the urgency to throw something at the people/ hit the people who yelled at me, picked on me, etc. (But I don't do it though.) and I feel like it isn't normal for me to become very obsessive over it. Very.
My school is a private school, so it's a bit complicated.
The staff & students are very.. Disrespectful towards me and I feel so disconnected from them. They don't really accept me, and I can't help it that in fact that I'm like this. It's me. It's who I am. People become fake friends with me after a while, and it hurts me a lot. I wondered if it was my fault or is it their fault for making my mental issues more worse? I constantly think that it was my fault, and it just make things worse.
The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this? I would like to have several opinions on this topic.
Thanks for reading~
I do need some support & comfort right now and I would be so glad to hear some advice...Ever since I started my second year of being in this school (I transferred from an another school), my mental issues had gotten more worse and I started to become more isolated from the society. I do have anxiety problems, along with depression. A hint of mild Asperger's too, but it isn't diagnosed yet. I get frustrated over small things, and I don't like making new friends due to the trust issues I have towards them. I have the urgency to throw something at the people/ hit the people who yelled at me, picked on me, etc. (But I don't do it though.) and I feel like it isn't normal for me to become very obsessive over it. Very.
My school is a private school, so it's a bit complicated.
The staff & students are very.. Disrespectful towards me and I feel so disconnected from them. They don't really accept me, and I can't help it that in fact that I'm like this. It's me. It's who I am. People become fake friends with me after a while, and it hurts me a lot. I wondered if it was my fault or is it their fault for making my mental issues more worse? I constantly think that it was my fault, and it just make things worse.
The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this? I would like to have several opinions on this topic.
Thanks for reading~
I am not good at answering these, but I been a student at a private school back in my youth. The sad thing, Students and some of the teachers kind of viewed me as an outsider. Some students would avoid me.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
NorwegianCoffee wrote:
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The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this?
The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this?
It's impossible for me to say if your school is "good" or not.
School sucks. Kids are mean as hell. For as long as schools have existed in their modern form, we have had bullying and disrespect. And no one knows how to deal with each other, so you aren't alone. Half the people you're thinking of as "fake friends" are probably going through similar crap.
So here's the question: are you getting a good education, or is the environment so completely and exceedingly toxic that you are incapable of focusing on your studies? Now, I don't really want to hear the answer, because this is a question for you to ask yourself. You might not even be able to answer it right away, and that's ok--it's just something to think about.
You'll make it through. It sucks that you aren't being respected, but young people often aren't. Focus on your studies, and like Asroc said, keep your real friends close. If you have any teachers that you like, try to forge a connection with them too.
Asroc wrote:
I am not good at answering these, but I been a student at a private school back in my youth. The sad thing, Students and some of the teachers kind of viewed me as an outsider. Some students would avoid me.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Very few, yeah.
It's true, yeah. Many students avoid me only because I'm different. Teachers are pretty chill about me, though so I'm ok.
Heimdall wrote:
NorwegianCoffee wrote:
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The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this?
The big question is, is it a good school if the staff and the students treated me like this?
It's impossible for me to say if your school is "good" or not.
School sucks. Kids are mean as hell. For as long as schools have existed in their modern form, we have had bullying and disrespect. And no one knows how to deal with each other, so you aren't alone. Half the people you're thinking of as "fake friends" are probably going through similar crap.
So here's the question: are you getting a good education, or is the environment so completely and exceedingly toxic that you are incapable of focusing on your studies? Now, I don't really want to hear the answer, because this is a question for you to ask yourself. You might not even be able to answer it right away, and that's ok--it's just something to think about.
You'll make it through. It sucks that you aren't being respected, but young people often aren't. Focus on your studies, and like Asroc said, keep your real friends close. If you have any teachers that you like, try to forge a connection with them too.
True, true. Thanks, though. I'll think about that question.
NorwegianCoffee wrote:
Asroc wrote:
I am not good at answering these, but I been a student at a private school back in my youth. The sad thing, Students and some of the teachers kind of viewed me as an outsider. Some students would avoid me.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Very few, yeah.
It's true, yeah. Many students avoid me only because I'm different. Teachers are pretty chill about me, though so I'm ok.
I would advise to talk to a teacher or a consuler if you have one .
You gotta be strong and hold a high head. The kids who sneer at you don't know you,but the ones who stay with you do and like you.
Asroc wrote:
NorwegianCoffee wrote:
Asroc wrote:
I am not good at answering these, but I been a student at a private school back in my youth. The sad thing, Students and some of the teachers kind of viewed me as an outsider. Some students would avoid me.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Now, do you have some friends that are at your side? Not the fake ones. Keep those close. I don't think these whoare hurting you have the right. They may not know the true you.
Very few, yeah.
It's true, yeah. Many students avoid me only because I'm different. Teachers are pretty chill about me, though so I'm ok.
I would advise to talk to a teacher or a consuler if you have one .
You gotta be strong and hold a high head. The kids who sneer at you don't know you,but the ones who stay with you do and like you.
Thank you so much. Will talk to a consuler today.
I can only echo what's being said. I think a majority of people in school feel this way - isolated, like they're being disrespected and disconnected. Often times it's also because we don't communicate properly and end up filling in the gaps. Have students told you in no uncertain terms they don't like you?
In one of my group therapy social courses, we were discussing social interactions. One woman said she always felt really anxious and disliked when she said hi to a neighbor on the street but they didn't respond to her. She immediately assumed they wanted nothing to do with her, were angry with her or something along those lines. It never occurred to her that her neighbor might have not heard her or was just lost in thought, didn't recognize her immediately or just didn't have the time and was on their way to an emergency etc.
The lesson we learned that day is things aren't always necessarily the way we perceive them if we don't hear it from the horse's mouth. I thought certain kids in school hated me too because I interpreted their behavior towards me that way. Many years later I met some of them again and asked about it, only to find out they never did and thought I hated them (I absolutely didn't). We never communicated with each other and just assumed, and that got really badly in the way of everything.
So I guess, alongside all the advice already given, I want to urge not to assume people dislike you because you're you, unless they explicitly tell you (you didn't mention that, so I just want to cover all bases ). Filling in gaps is super easy when you're dealing with anxiety and depression (I'm diagnosed with both and more myself) and it leads to a skewed perception just as easily. You could try to reach out to those people and just ask them what they think of you. Ask them to hang out for lunch. Make an effort to get to know them. For all we know they might not have a real opinion on you at all and just think you don't really like them.
Of course if people are being explicit about their dislike for you then I can only recommend what's already been said. Otherwise this might be food for thought.
In one of my group therapy social courses, we were discussing social interactions. One woman said she always felt really anxious and disliked when she said hi to a neighbor on the street but they didn't respond to her. She immediately assumed they wanted nothing to do with her, were angry with her or something along those lines. It never occurred to her that her neighbor might have not heard her or was just lost in thought, didn't recognize her immediately or just didn't have the time and was on their way to an emergency etc.
The lesson we learned that day is things aren't always necessarily the way we perceive them if we don't hear it from the horse's mouth. I thought certain kids in school hated me too because I interpreted their behavior towards me that way. Many years later I met some of them again and asked about it, only to find out they never did and thought I hated them (I absolutely didn't). We never communicated with each other and just assumed, and that got really badly in the way of everything.
So I guess, alongside all the advice already given, I want to urge not to assume people dislike you because you're you, unless they explicitly tell you (you didn't mention that, so I just want to cover all bases
). Filling in gaps is super easy when you're dealing with anxiety and depression (I'm diagnosed with both and more myself) and it leads to a skewed perception just as easily. You could try to reach out to those people and just ask them what they think of you. Ask them to hang out for lunch. Make an effort to get to know them. For all we know they might not have a real opinion on you at all and just think you don't really like them.Of course if people are being explicit about their dislike for you then I can only recommend what's already been said. Otherwise this might be food for thought.
Sanne wrote:
I can only echo what's being said. I think a majority of people in school feel this way - isolated, like they're being disrespected and disconnected. Often times it's also because we don't communicate properly and end up filling in the gaps. Have students told you in no uncertain terms they don't like you?
In one of my group therapy social courses, we were discussing social interactions. One woman said she always felt really anxious and disliked when she said hi to a neighbor on the street but they didn't respond to her. She immediately assumed they wanted nothing to do with her, were angry with her or something along those lines. It never occurred to her that her neighbor might have not heard her or was just lost in thought, didn't recognize her immediately or just didn't have the time and was on their way to an emergency etc.
The lesson we learned that day is things aren't always necessarily the way we perceive them if we don't hear it from the horse's mouth. I thought certain kids in school hated me too because I interpreted their behavior towards me that way. Many years later I met some of them again and asked about it, only to find out they never did and thought I hated them (I absolutely didn't). We never communicated with each other and just assumed, and that got really badly in the way of everything.
So I guess, alongside all the advice already given, I want to urge not to assume people dislike you because you're you, unless they explicitly tell you (you didn't mention that, so I just want to cover all bases ). Filling in gaps is super easy when you're dealing with anxiety and depression (I'm diagnosed with both and more myself) and it leads to a skewed perception just as easily. You could try to reach out to those people and just ask them what they think of you. Ask them to hang out for lunch. Make an effort to get to know them. For all we know they might not have a real opinion on you at all and just think you don't really like them.
Of course if people are being explicit about their dislike for you then I can only recommend what's already been said. Otherwise this might be food for thought.
In one of my group therapy social courses, we were discussing social interactions. One woman said she always felt really anxious and disliked when she said hi to a neighbor on the street but they didn't respond to her. She immediately assumed they wanted nothing to do with her, were angry with her or something along those lines. It never occurred to her that her neighbor might have not heard her or was just lost in thought, didn't recognize her immediately or just didn't have the time and was on their way to an emergency etc.
The lesson we learned that day is things aren't always necessarily the way we perceive them if we don't hear it from the horse's mouth. I thought certain kids in school hated me too because I interpreted their behavior towards me that way. Many years later I met some of them again and asked about it, only to find out they never did and thought I hated them (I absolutely didn't). We never communicated with each other and just assumed, and that got really badly in the way of everything.
So I guess, alongside all the advice already given, I want to urge not to assume people dislike you because you're you, unless they explicitly tell you (you didn't mention that, so I just want to cover all bases
). Filling in gaps is super easy when you're dealing with anxiety and depression (I'm diagnosed with both and more myself) and it leads to a skewed perception just as easily. You could try to reach out to those people and just ask them what they think of you. Ask them to hang out for lunch. Make an effort to get to know them. For all we know they might not have a real opinion on you at all and just think you don't really like them.Of course if people are being explicit about their dislike for you then I can only recommend what's already been said. Otherwise this might be food for thought.
Thanks! To answer your question..
They behaved like they didn't like me. Several of them did tell me that they didn't like me through iMessage, and their behavior in real life had effected me in some ways. I tried talking to them, but they decided not to accept me. It's hard to directly say hello, or something like that, since I have a hard time socializing with some people in general. -shrugs- But I'm not going to worry about that, since I do know that I have real friends on my side.