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Merry FOBETEO 2023, my Excellent Friends!

Posted by Kim on December 3, 2023, 9:00am

A red-haired girl in a big winter coat lights a candle held by a man in a red coat.It's The Festival of Being Excellent to Each Other! This is the part of the year that we set aside time to tell the people around us how much we appreciate them - and exactly what those ways we appreciate them are. Whether the people you care about exist in your Meat Space or in your Online world, it's still people who enrich and enable our lives and our fantasies.

It's the time of the year to reflect on the people in your life that you care about, and let them know what they mean to you.
RP is impossible without at least one partner, and those partners give us so much of their time, energy, attention, care, creativity and more. We're bringing our gratitude to the fore and letting it bubble over into words of affirmation, to let those special people know that they are seen and appreciated!

Let them know you care

Part of the tradition of reflecting on how thankful we are to the RP partners of the past year is giving the gift of public recognition!

Write your RP partners a kudos to tell them how much you appreciate their time, their brilliance, the effort that they put into creating story hooks and plot twists and special moments. Tell your friends how much you've seen them improve and that their hard work has not gone unnoticed. Tell those who were there when you were going through a hard time what a difference it made. It doesn't have to take a long time, but it's sure to mean a lot!
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Every five kudos you write this week will earn you a special winter candle accolade to display proudly on your profile, available only during FOBETEO.

Remember, to be eligible, a kudos needs to contain a clear "why" explaining what makes your friend so special! Don't just say "He's awesome!", tell the world what makes your friend so awesome. Click here for the complete kudos guidelines.
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Giving kudos anonymously will count, but may cause your accolades to arrive on a random time delay.

I know some folks worry that the possibility of getting an accolade might make their compliments seem less sincere to the recipient. To me, the accolades are just a lovely festive element, but I have trouble viewing a 32 x 32 pixel badge as worth enough to get people to lie for. Still, if you absolutely hate the thought that there might be a small reward for giving public recognition right now, you can still participate in the festive spirit by sending your compliments via PM. :)



December 4, 2023

I'm really happy to be participating in this event. Ever since I first heard about it from a friend I've been really excited about it. Can't wait to participate!


December 4, 2023

This event has already made me sob.. really came at a time i needed it most. It's such a sweet event honestly <3


December 4, 2023

I don't save mine, I just forget to give them out, haha..

This is a really good reminder!


December 4, 2023

Nah, they're things you thought deserved to be said anyway :)


December 3, 2023

It doesn’t make you a bad person. Maybe don’t say it out loud though. Lol


December 3, 2023

I sort of been 'saving up' some deserved kudos to give out this week. Does that make me a bad person for wanting cute little candle accolades? XD


December 3, 2023

I guess that's a good opportunity to get ones out i've been wanting to, but been too nervous to do haha or attempt to