Dndmama wrote:
I've actually had really positive experiences with rping pregnancy and kids for the most part. I had one character who got pregnant twice. We rped them meeting and getting together to the two pregnancies to living with their kids to the kids being all grown up and having their own adventures. It was really great. I had another where my character's partner's writer became involved with someone in real life. We were all actually friends in real life so I knew her and completely understood how it would be awkward if his and my characters were together in the over arching group rp. I wasn't fond of how he went about cutting off contact but it actually made for some great drama in character and we all eventually worked through it though there were a few hard feelings at first.
Funnily enough my first pregnancy rp was before I had ever actually been pregnant so I was mostly guessing as to how it feels due to second hand information. Though she did end up actually murdering the big bad while 8 months pregnant and on the verge of giving birth. All very epic. I'd actually be even more interested in doing it again now that I have been (and currently am) pregnant but understandably it needs the right partner, the right character and the right story. It's definitely not the sort of thing you add to an rp without discussing it thoroughly first.
One of my characters actually does come with a built in toddler as part of his deal. Adorable kids are a fun way to add emotion, levity and depth to what might otherwise be a more standard slice of life rp. (Or whatever type of rp you're running.) I've used young kids as npcs too (in one setting the hero's main hub was a small orphanage full of several small children that were fun to play around with).
I've read a couple these other responses and it saddens me that so many people have had bad experiences with this sort of story. It's such an interesting and complex part of many relationships (not all of course, and no judgement to any who choose not to part take in that part of life either in real life or rp). I just figured I'd throw my two cents in. I actually already have plans to add pregnancy to *at least* two of my current rps.
Funnily enough my first pregnancy rp was before I had ever actually been pregnant so I was mostly guessing as to how it feels due to second hand information. Though she did end up actually murdering the big bad while 8 months pregnant and on the verge of giving birth. All very epic. I'd actually be even more interested in doing it again now that I have been (and currently am) pregnant but understandably it needs the right partner, the right character and the right story. It's definitely not the sort of thing you add to an rp without discussing it thoroughly first.
One of my characters actually does come with a built in toddler as part of his deal. Adorable kids are a fun way to add emotion, levity and depth to what might otherwise be a more standard slice of life rp. (Or whatever type of rp you're running.) I've used young kids as npcs too (in one setting the hero's main hub was a small orphanage full of several small children that were fun to play around with).
I've read a couple these other responses and it saddens me that so many people have had bad experiences with this sort of story. It's such an interesting and complex part of many relationships (not all of course, and no judgement to any who choose not to part take in that part of life either in real life or rp). I just figured I'd throw my two cents in. I actually already have plans to add pregnancy to *at least* two of my current rps.
The first one sounds so so cute, my heart is swelling. :’) like the characters being in love and then continuing the roleplay further on with their children - how adorable!
I agree, I think it’s rather sad that most people have had some bad and discouraging experiences with roleplaying such a normal part of human life
8_Stars_8 wrote:
Although I don’t nescessarily like doing RPs with kids, I do have one of my characters have a child in one of my RPs. The one thing to be cautious about when RPimg small kids is to realize that IRL they are a lot of work and take up lots of attention, but it’s not fair to the other player in my opinion if the main focus is the kid and there is no development outside of the kids. 
Once again, just my opinion from past experiences.
Once again, just my opinion from past experiences.
I think you’re completely right! Of course a kid is going to need a lot of attention and so on, but after all - a roleplay usually starts with the two main characters who then fall in love, etc. so I agree that the main focus should be on the two of them. That doesn’t make the child(ren) any less important though but of course you can chose to not let them have as much “screen time” ^^
Mercyinreach wrote:
I have only had one RP with pregnancy but several with children in them and I LOVE them. I do romance rp strictly 99% of the time and I usually plan for pregnancy to happen at some point and I put it in the LFRP that this is a plot point in their lives I want to explore. Unfortunately it has meant many people are not interested in RPing with me, but plenty of people are.
At the moment I have 3 rps where accidental pregnancy is going to happen in the near future, 2 where it's a possibility much later on, 3 where we've already had the couples talk about wanting children and planning, and 4-5 where they aren't far enough to have that discussion and they're not at a place where children would be a good idea for the RP. And I have... Several where my characters have children from past relationships and a couple characters that don't want children at all.
But I adore pregnancy/adoption and children in RP. I am a fan of realism, and most of my rps have very real life conflicts, topics, and go through all the life and relationship stages. Even if sometimes backwards, sideways and upside down hahaha!
It makes me sad that people are so hesitant, because I love it. I am honestly really excited for one of my characters to be pregnant or adopt because none are right now and I am craving that plot point and getting to write my characters (the ones who want children) experiencing that. I can definitely understand people not wanting to RP with children though for sure, I definitely don't want to have all my RP's have children at the exact same time, that'd certainly be rough. So, definitely not judging anyone for not wanting to RP with children, I don't want children IRL so, I can relate on some level.
Edit: I want to add that I do ask the people I'm rping with how they'd feel about pregnancy just to see if they specificaly want to wait quite a while or if they'd be fine with it at any point.
At the moment I have 3 rps where accidental pregnancy is going to happen in the near future, 2 where it's a possibility much later on, 3 where we've already had the couples talk about wanting children and planning, and 4-5 where they aren't far enough to have that discussion and they're not at a place where children would be a good idea for the RP. And I have... Several where my characters have children from past relationships and a couple characters that don't want children at all.
But I adore pregnancy/adoption and children in RP. I am a fan of realism, and most of my rps have very real life conflicts, topics, and go through all the life and relationship stages. Even if sometimes backwards, sideways and upside down hahaha!
It makes me sad that people are so hesitant, because I love it. I am honestly really excited for one of my characters to be pregnant or adopt because none are right now and I am craving that plot point and getting to write my characters (the ones who want children) experiencing that. I can definitely understand people not wanting to RP with children though for sure, I definitely don't want to have all my RP's have children at the exact same time, that'd certainly be rough. So, definitely not judging anyone for not wanting to RP with children, I don't want children IRL so, I can relate on some level.
Edit: I want to add that I do ask the people I'm rping with how they'd feel about pregnancy just to see if they specificaly want to wait quite a while or if they'd be fine with it at any point.
Christ, I literally feel like I ghost-wrote this. I don’t have anything to add because I completely feel the same way, hands-down. I understand if people don’t want it to be a part of a roleplay but I love having my roleplays be as realistic as possible, so with that comes the possibility of children (surely, I do prefer discussing it with my partner(s) beforehand!) and honestly, I find it rather fascinating how the whole concept can be shaped in so many different ways. ^^
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