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It's The Most Excellent Time Of The Year (FOBETEO)

Posted by Kim on December 3, 2022, 9:00am

A red-haired girl in a big winter coat lights a candle held by a man in a red coat.It's The Festival of Being Excellent to Each Other! This is the part of the year that we set aside time to tell the people around us how much we appreciate them - and exactly what those ways we appreciate them are. Whether the people you care about exist in your Meat Space or in your Online world, it's still people who enrich and enable our lives and our fantasies.

It's the time of the year to reflect on the people in your life that you care about, and let them know what they mean to you.
RP is impossible without at least one partner, and those partners give us so much of their time, energy, attention, care, creativity and more. We're bringing our gratitude to the fore and letting it bubble over into words of affirmation, to let those special people know that they are seen and appreciated! Want some ideas? Check out our guide to giving amazing compliments
Last year, I offered daily theme prompts to help you consider what sort of things you appreciated your friends for (they were: Wisdom, generosity, humor, creativity, honesty, respect and encouragement) This year, I'll be offering some reflections on little ways we can be excellent to the people around us and demonstrate that we care for one another by the way we conduct ourselves year-round.

Let them know you care


Part of the tradition of reflecting on how thankful we are to the RP partners of the past year is giving the gift of public recognition!

Write your RP partners a kudos to tell them how much you appreciate their time, their brilliance, the effort that they put into creating story hooks and plot twists and special moments. Tell your friends how much you've seen them improve and that their hard work has not gone unnoticed. Tell those who were there when you were going through a hard time what a difference it made. It doesn't have to take a long time, but it's sure to mean a lot!
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Every five kudos you write this week will earn you a special winter candle accolade to display proudly on your profile, available only during FOBETEO.

Remember, to be eligible, a kudos needs to contain a clear "why" explaining what makes your friend so special! Don't just say "He's awesome!", tell the world what makes your friend so awesome. Click here for the complete kudos guidelines.
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Giving kudos anonymously will count, but may cause your accolades to arrive on a random time delay.

I know some folks worry that the possibility of getting an accolade might make their compliments seem less sincere to the recipient. To me, the accolades are just a lovely festive element, but I have trouble viewing a 32 x 32 pixel badge as worth enough to get people to lie for. Still, if you absolutely hate the thought that there might be a small reward for giving public recognition right now, you can still participate in the festive spirit by sending your compliments via PM. :)

Post tags: FOBETEO 2022 FOBETEO

Comments

Sin-fonie

December 5, 2022
8:40pm

I think this is a really great idea :D
There are so many awesome people here that this was just the little additional nudge I needed to finally put my feelings and thoughts into words!

GingerHades

December 3, 2022
2:55pm

*cracks knuckles*

Time to start whipping up some kudos! Step right up folks, get 'em while they're hot! :D

silentruth

December 3, 2022
12:26pm

Yes yes perfect timing, got up this morning with the worst case of SAD and desperately needed some positivity, and sent out a few kudos right before this announcement.
Tis the season yall, take care of each other <3