I only got a 2 year degree in college instead of 4. I also held out on making a freind on here because we didn't have the greatest interduction.
Yeah, a few.... I would say I had many, but as time and life went on, the decisions I made that I regretted were all part of what made me the me of today. But yes, I could list some...
One would be that I didn't call my dad and mom more after I moved to Australia. I remember visiting in 2014 when my wife and I took an RV journey across the USA from Chicago to Seattle, that when it came time for us to leave the last time, mom cried as she must have known that would be the last time we would see each other. I just wanted to stay. I loved the fact she adapted to facebook as her social outlet, and I still cry sometimes when a 'memory' comes up that she had replied to.
And the hardest thing I had to do was to leave dad when we came over to visit after he had a stroke in 2011. He was in an assisted care facility and it came to the time we had to go to the airport to go back to Australia, and dad really wanted us to stay. He was telling all sorts of stories of his life, like when he ran a gas station in Mitchell South Dakota and his older brother, my uncle Joe, would run alcohol from Minnesota to South Dakota to the station in fast cars and dad would sell it to the 'regular' customers. Apparently South Dakota was still 'dry' at the time in 1939-41. And the whole story of how my uncle came to Seattle was because he was a 'wanted man' in South Dakota and headed west on the run.
Anyway, not sure what all this has to do with regrets other than my communications with my parents. I could list many a thing as 'regrets' that came along in life, but in hindsight, they were really 'decisions' on the path of life.
One would be that I didn't call my dad and mom more after I moved to Australia. I remember visiting in 2014 when my wife and I took an RV journey across the USA from Chicago to Seattle, that when it came time for us to leave the last time, mom cried as she must have known that would be the last time we would see each other. I just wanted to stay. I loved the fact she adapted to facebook as her social outlet, and I still cry sometimes when a 'memory' comes up that she had replied to.
And the hardest thing I had to do was to leave dad when we came over to visit after he had a stroke in 2011. He was in an assisted care facility and it came to the time we had to go to the airport to go back to Australia, and dad really wanted us to stay. He was telling all sorts of stories of his life, like when he ran a gas station in Mitchell South Dakota and his older brother, my uncle Joe, would run alcohol from Minnesota to South Dakota to the station in fast cars and dad would sell it to the 'regular' customers. Apparently South Dakota was still 'dry' at the time in 1939-41. And the whole story of how my uncle came to Seattle was because he was a 'wanted man' in South Dakota and headed west on the run.
Anyway, not sure what all this has to do with regrets other than my communications with my parents. I could list many a thing as 'regrets' that came along in life, but in hindsight, they were really 'decisions' on the path of life.
I don't even have to think about it to know my biggest one....
Not singing for my Dad before he died. I swear I felt the universe nudging for the last three days before he died "Sing for him!" .. and I ignored it, and then it was too late. Whenever I visit his bench that we had made for him in his favourite park (he used to call it his office because he took all his sponsors there when they needed to talk) I think of "Fly Me To The Moon". That was his favourite one that I sang, mind you if he was here he'd probably argue that he loved all of them.
Not singing for my Dad before he died. I swear I felt the universe nudging for the last three days before he died "Sing for him!" .. and I ignored it, and then it was too late. Whenever I visit his bench that we had made for him in his favourite park (he used to call it his office because he took all his sponsors there when they needed to talk) I think of "Fly Me To The Moon". That was his favourite one that I sang, mind you if he was here he'd probably argue that he loved all of them.
I wish i'd stuck with my first degree rather than letting my health and two very unpleasant teachers drive me away. I genuinely regret my animation degree, it isn't what I wanted to do with my life at all. From the age of 5 I had wanted to be an archaeologist, I let a year of poor health and two nasty people destroy that for me.
I wish i'd handled conflict better and kept my mouth shut and not alienated a large chunk of my "friends" and had them turn on me as a result.... three times. (different groups, same nonsense)
I regret speaking up. I regret saying anything. I regret how nasty things turned.
I wish i'd said more when my parents asked if I was okay with emigrating to the UK. I wish i'd said no.
I regret going along with it and I regret believing them.
Related to this, I regret not bringing my sister's beloved childhood bear with me for safekeeping. I considered it but I thought it was presumptuous to do so and believed my father that he'd be safe in storage.
He wasn't. Nothing was, we lost everything.
A big one, I regret letting this guy at college brainwash me. I didn't recognise his psychopathy till I had gotten out of his clutches but I deeply regret trusting him and not listening to my friend when she warned me about him. It still to this day unsettles me how easily he turned me into a puppet, stripped my free will and self away from me. I generally think of myself as quite a tough person with a strong mind but he proved that wasn't the case at all. He was a monster, a subtle one, but still a monster. He made me do awful things to a person I loved and I still don't understand WHY I did them or HOW he managed it. I deeply regret all of that, because this person I cared about deserved so much better. He was nothing but good and kind to me and I treated him awfully.
I used to say I lived without regrets because mistakes make you who you are, but the older i've become, the more i've wondered how things might have gone had I done things a little different. The more I resent aspects of the path I have walked. So much of it was very unfair and so easily avoided, and that sucks.
I wish i'd handled conflict better and kept my mouth shut and not alienated a large chunk of my "friends" and had them turn on me as a result.... three times. (different groups, same nonsense)
I regret speaking up. I regret saying anything. I regret how nasty things turned.
I wish i'd said more when my parents asked if I was okay with emigrating to the UK. I wish i'd said no.
I regret going along with it and I regret believing them.
Related to this, I regret not bringing my sister's beloved childhood bear with me for safekeeping. I considered it but I thought it was presumptuous to do so and believed my father that he'd be safe in storage.
He wasn't. Nothing was, we lost everything.
A big one, I regret letting this guy at college brainwash me. I didn't recognise his psychopathy till I had gotten out of his clutches but I deeply regret trusting him and not listening to my friend when she warned me about him. It still to this day unsettles me how easily he turned me into a puppet, stripped my free will and self away from me. I generally think of myself as quite a tough person with a strong mind but he proved that wasn't the case at all. He was a monster, a subtle one, but still a monster. He made me do awful things to a person I loved and I still don't understand WHY I did them or HOW he managed it. I deeply regret all of that, because this person I cared about deserved so much better. He was nothing but good and kind to me and I treated him awfully.
I used to say I lived without regrets because mistakes make you who you are, but the older i've become, the more i've wondered how things might have gone had I done things a little different. The more I resent aspects of the path I have walked. So much of it was very unfair and so easily avoided, and that sucks.
I have my share of regrets. Like not spending more time with my late dead grandpa which I don't remember even though I lived with him on the same yard. Or not spending more time on socialising and studying, sure I regret that. Although now that I look at it from time perspective. I don't have any kind of influence on my past as it already happened, well hopefully I learned that I can have impact on present and I can make better decision based on my experiences.
I heard once someone say "Live your life without regrets, follow what you think is right" It's impossible actually as at one point you would regret something. it is something which I realised recently.
There's one thing person can do, It is going on forwards and accepting/forgiving yourself for what has happend in past(Since I doubt your relatives/loved ones would want to be the reason for your sadness)
As living isn't constant wallowing in your regrets, you would waste life doing that and miss the beauty of this world.
Getting past your grief/regret is most admirable/beautiful thing to do in my opinion, as person changes into something different just like seed watered down each day and growing into beautiful flower.
I heard once someone say "Live your life without regrets, follow what you think is right" It's impossible actually as at one point you would regret something. it is something which I realised recently.
There's one thing person can do, It is going on forwards and accepting/forgiving yourself for what has happend in past(Since I doubt your relatives/loved ones would want to be the reason for your sadness)
As living isn't constant wallowing in your regrets, you would waste life doing that and miss the beauty of this world.
Getting past your grief/regret is most admirable/beautiful thing to do in my opinion, as person changes into something different just like seed watered down each day and growing into beautiful flower.
I regret not running away from my abusive household as a teenager and getting help sooner - though I know that wasn't my fault and shouldn't have been a choice I had to make.
I regret not getting help in general sooner, for mental health, everything.
I regret taking so long to get my GED.
This is morbid, but I honestly regret not telling my abusive mother how selfish and abusive she was before she died. I used to feel guilty for being angry at her even in death, used to feel guilty for not telling her I loved her before she died - but... the truth is if I could repeat everything, I would make sure one of the last things she heard before her death, was how much she hurt me.
I regret not getting help in general sooner, for mental health, everything.
I regret taking so long to get my GED.
This is morbid, but I honestly regret not telling my abusive mother how selfish and abusive she was before she died. I used to feel guilty for being angry at her even in death, used to feel guilty for not telling her I loved her before she died - but... the truth is if I could repeat everything, I would make sure one of the last things she heard before her death, was how much she hurt me.
I regret a lot of things in my life but my biggest regret is not helping my first girlfriend when she needed it the most before she took her life. If I could I'd go back and tell her I'm sorry I'd do anything to go back and change what I said but all I said on that day was I'm a little busy with school work I'll call you back later. I hung up and in actuality I was hanging out with my friends smoking dope. I missed out on saving her or at least doing something because I wanted to smoke a little weed and chill with my friends. That is my biggest regret and it will always haunt me until the day I die. A word of advice for everyone out there pay attention to the ones you love and try and make time for them even if you aren't up to it cause you don't know if you'll get another chance.
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