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I love RPR, I do. The fact that I have every single cake slice in existence should attest to that, but...lately RPR has been getting kinda bad for my mental health. I have been ghosted like...7...8...9 times in a row now? I don't even know anymore and it's getting incredibly demoralizing. I don't know what I am doing wrong. I have been responding to rp ads with a lot of thought, asking questions and adding to their plot ideas. I got 17 kudos so I'd like to think I make a pretty good partner.

So I figure maybe what I need to do to get out of this funk is to cast a wider net and try my luck elsewhere. Problem is RPR has been my exclusive rping site for years now so I wouldn't even know where would be a good place to look.

For any of my loyal partners, don't worry, I'm not leaving rpr, I'm just trying to see if I can find some better luck elsewhere.

I don't think you're doing anything wrong - ghosting has been, is, and will be a common occurence in this scene, unfortunately. I think the only way to try to change that is to never ghost anyone yourself (general you), but that's an arduous endeavor that'll require a lot of people to participate if it's to become the new norm.

But you could try looking at rpg-directory? It's an advertising board for forum RPs. I prefer sites like this one, with no set genre/theme and where you can do whatever; and what you can find there is mostly boards dedicated to either one original story or a specific fandom. Give it a look-see, maybe you'll find something cool.

Eh, it just feels hard not to assign blame to myself when it is that many times in a row.

Regardless, RPG is a possibility.

Katia, my dear, You are one of my finest co-writers... and I am a firm believer in several things such as:

1. Truth... be honest with people... especially those on the other end of the virtual existence we call Roleplay. Just because you cannot see them and think, oh a slight fib won't hurt... to have a writer poof or *ghost* is BS.

2. Be reciprocal... give more than what you get...

3. My PRIME DIRECTIVE: "Common Sense is the Best Sense !!!

4. "Write something to suit everybody and scarcely anyone will care for it; Write something to suit yourself and many people will like it."

5. “Real life has taught me that in the adult world, fate is chaotic and ambiguous.
Strategies for success are subjective.
But in the world of Creative Fiction, at least there is role-playing, where we are in control, and our characters... wander through places of danger, their destinies, superficially, within our grasp.”

And these have been good for me and my self-esteem for many many years of Roleplay...

And the grass is not always greener on the other side.... I left RPG-Directory... but they are huge.. and with size, comes strict unwavering rules... and need rules... and with strict unwavering rules comes insensitivity.... but you may like it... but when you make a group, or join one... you will run into the very same thing here... but if you ghost, or buck the stupidity... you could become a pariah.

Good luck my dear !!!!
Will

Okay, I’m going on the boards for this and even using my account name.

Hello, I’m reaching out to this post to offer a little love and some advice. I’ve been around a long time. If something is affecting your mental health, take a break. Try something else until the desire to RP comes back. Text RP takes a lot of headspace, and it can affect your mental well-being. So take a breather, read, do something different.

Ghosting happens—it’s more about the other person than it is about you. I speak from experience. 90% of the time, it’s not a comment on your talent. It has more to do with that person’s insecurities or what’s going on in their life.

I had a friend I ghosted because he was so good at RP, I felt inadequate and stopped replying. Later, we reconnected, and now we’re close friends.

I may not know you personally, but I do know one of your RP buddies. I’m sending you lots of love and hope this helped, even just a little.

— Sarie the Fae 🧚

Mostly echoing masquerade but I think more voices who say it could help.

We wrote together for a minute but it didn't work with my availability at the time.

I used to ghost people all the time, but it was my inability to communicate or my fear of confrontation - I've had some people quite rude to me when I have ended an rp! A lot of people use writing to express themselves how they would like so we have confrontational messed up characters that survive (at least for me lol)

I doubt it's ever about you, and if it is it's because that person didn't know how to say it, (Like just saying I'm sorry our writing styles dont match) because sometimes they don't. I've seen people who's writing style I don't get at all, and others who love them it's the joy of having so many different personality types in the world.


I do have a feeling no matter where you go you're going to get ghosted.

But I understand taking it so personally. I do it a lot too. 💜

I'm sorry ❤️

I don't have any recommendations because RPR is my RP home as well.

I just wanted to say that I understand.

I get ghosted all the time as well. It's hard not to take it personally, especially when it happens so many times in a row. It happens for a lot of reasons, I won't say whether I think it's valid or not, just that it can be hurtful.

I've been on RPR for almost 9 years. Not to brag or sound snooty, but I am practically a fixed figure of RPR. People know me, even if we've never spoken. I've gotten messages from people saying they want to talk to me and RP with me because of things other people say about me. I have a ton of kudos and I give a ton of kudos.

Despite this, I've still gotten ghosted a handful of times this year, maybe more. In the planning stage and after already starting.

It can get exhausting. It's why I've mostly decided to stick to RPing with my handful of long term friends and partners I've made, instead of looking for new people. I only look for new partners now a couple times a year, and usually end up failing.

But! Then there's the moment when the fates align and I meet someone, start writing with them, and they become a part of my long term writing partners and friends and before I know it they've been in my life for years.

It's that, that keeps me going.

Not to mention I've had people who ghosted me return and apologize. Having worked on their communication and no longer feel like they need to ghost, and our friendship ends up stronger. I have even been on the other side of that in the past when I hadn't worked through some issues yet.

All this to say, I hope you find some people to write with and don't let all this discourage you. 💚

As someone who has unfortunately done a fair share of unintentional ghosting over the years, first, it's probably not anything against you. They could have had something come up, and/or just feel self-conscious about reaching out once they do realize they flaked.

Still, sorry that it happened to you, and especially sorry that it's had such an effect on you that it's pushing you to that point. Doing what's best for your mental health is important though.

As for other sites, I used to have some luck with RPNation, not sure how active or alive it is nowadays, just the RPs I have going on now are more than enough to keep me pretty busy to have been going looking elsewhere right now.

If you're open to chat RP rather than forum RP there are a few mIRC RP Channels with some diehards still around, and there's the Roleplay Meets Reborn Discord, too, found a few good RPs from there.

I've been offline on RPR for a while for this exact reason. I tried to find another site, one with an accompanying Discord Server, thought I'd found someone good to write with only to find myself not only ghosted, but blocked by them on Discord. I have no idea what I did, but for a while I felt like there was some kinda campaign against me, where someone was spreading disinformation about me, cause I was always upfront with WP that if they weren't feeling the RP, no big deal just say so and we'll either call it off or try to find something else to write.

It's very frustrating having WPs disappear. My advice would be to take a break and find other means to scratch that RP itch. I genuinely miss the days of Yahoo RP Chat Rooms. It was chaos, but there were always people to RP with.

I haven't used it much, but I am also cool using discord to rp, but really I mostly prefer PM rps since then I don't have to worry about ratings and I like my privacy.

Normally I handle ghosting better then this, but 9 in a row was a very painful new record for me.

I TRY hard... very HARD to not ghost... if I do, it may for for a couple of days as RL crap happens... and you should know by now, I hate RL... though I verily love life !!!

But here are the facts about Ghosting:


Why It Happens:

-- Loss of Interest : Sometimes, a player might simply lose interest in the plot or the character, and instead of explaining their disinterest, they simply stop engaging.

--Busy Personal Life : Real-life obligations or issues may come up, and the player doesn’t feel comfortable or able to explain the delay or their absence.

-- Social Discomfort : The player may feel overwhelmed by the group or uncomfortable with the direction of the roleplay and might ghost because they don't know how to politely leave or express their feelings.

-- Burnout : Roleplayers sometimes experience burnout from long-term roleplays or multiple projects, and they might ghost without realizing it’s having an impact on the people they’re collaborating with.



How Ghosting Affects Roleplay:

-- Story Disruption : Ghosting can cause a disruption in the continuity and flow of a story, especially if the missing player had an important role in the plot.

-- Frustration : The remaining roleplayers can feel frustrated or abandoned, leading to a breakdown in communication or the overall experience.

-- Loss of Trust : If ghosting happens repeatedly, it can lead to a breakdown of trust between roleplayers, as one player may feel unimportant or neglected.


Dealing with Ghosting:

-- Set Expectations : Before starting a roleplay, it’s helpful to discuss expectations, such as response time and communication if someone needs to take a break. ((( I REALLY try... !!!! )))

-- Be Understanding : If someone has ghosted, approach the situation with patience. They may be dealing with personal issues or have lost interest. A simple, kind message can sometimes prompt a response. ((( I REALLY try... and leave messages time after time after time !!!! )))

-- Communicate : If you’re feeling the urge (((( or need )))) to ghost, it’s best to communicate with the other players that you need a break or can no longer continue. This allows for closure and doesn’t leave others in limbo.((( Thank Goodness for RPRs, status !!!! )))

-- Don't Take It Personally : If you are the one left behind after someone ghosts, it’s important not to take it personally, though it can feel frustrating. Sometimes, people’s lives simply pull them away from roleplay without warning. ((( Easier said than done !!!! )))


BLUF: (bottom line up front)

Ghosting in roleplay can harm relationships and disrupt stories. Open communication and setting clear expectations are key to avoiding this issue and maintaining a respectful and enjoyable roleplay environment.:

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❖ -- Respect is key. We treat one another as we wish to be treated.
❖ -- Communication. Take the time to be aware of other Members’ needs, expectations, and limitations before jumping into plots.
❖ -- Honesty is the best policy.
❖ -- Response. Respond as soon as you can. Be courteous to your writing partner(s).
❖ -- Posting is a privilege, not a right.
❖ -- Harassment will never be tolerated.

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❖ RESPECT is key. I treat one another as I wish to be treated, and I am all the better for it, and so can you. Please respect the work of your fellow writers.
-- If you are curious about something? Ask me.
-- Have a question when you are in a story with me,
-- or a concern? Voice it.

I take great pride in not only writing our stories, but making sure that all creations are given their due.

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DOs and DO NOTs:

❖ Do not: ❖

❖ - use someone's work without permission,
❖ - play lone hero in a story,
❖ - forget to share in the excitement and writing among others,
❖ - fail to interact with people,
❖ - cause theatrics because there is no issue here and I keep it that way with an iron hand if necessary.

❖ Please DO: ❖

❖ - have fun,
❖ - write well,
❖ - write often,
❖ - interact with your fellow writers,
❖ - start a story,
❖ - ask a question to get an answer,
❖ - laugh,
❖ - run amuck, kick back, make a friend,
❖ - grab your dinner and sit at the computer.

Hi Katia,
I know this thread is a little bit on the older side now and it seems that fellow members gave some amazing advice and suggestions already, that helped me a lot too! But I wanted to comment on here because this is a situation that I also found/find myself in, in multiple rp communities. I have really struggled to find somewhere where I can find communitive writing partners that are willing to keep in touch and expand our writings if we enjoyed writing together but the plot seemed to get dull. I'm newer to RPR, and joined to try to get away from the drama and ghosting of instagram roleplays (that will always be my rp home, but it has unfortunately changed to people using it basically as Tinder? idk I am still trying to navigate if there are still corners of literate roleplay and editing there, just struggling to find them. A lot went to crap when instagram took away tags.) But then I ended up unintentionally ghosting my RPR account because I felt like I was really struggling with fitting in and getting roleplays started. But I am taking a wack at trying to be more active again, as I have waaay too much muse to not be writing, even if I end up just writing with myself LOL!

I guess what I am trying to say and why I wanted to comment, is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! And the things that are meant for you will come your way as long as you stay authentic to yourself and your writing and muse.
I took a look at your characters and honestly I would love to write with you if you were interested at all! My profile is currently a little outdated and I need to edit and add different characters, but I saw on your page how you are open to creating characters and plots and I am the same exact way! I would love to try to create a character to fit into a storyline / character that you already have and have been wanting to write if you are interested.

Absolutely no pressure of course, but something told me to at least reach out and respond to your thread to let you know that:
1. I see and hear you, you are so valid. Thank you for sharing your experience about this.
2. The responses to your thread were so helpful and reassuring, it reminded me how truly amazing the RPR community is.
3. I'm down to write if you are interested! Or be mutuals for future possibilities!

Sending you all the good vibes,
Moony