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Hi!
Whenever I find a character I’m fascinated by and think I would like to roleplay with, I message them and say so. Recently, 9 out of 10 times (I don’t do it that extreme, it’s just an example to give you an idea of how often it happens) whenever I’ve messaged somebody, I haven’t received anything back from them. It’s very discouraging because I understand if somebody isn’t up for it, but I would honestly rather get a message back that says something like “Hey, thanks for your interest but I’m not really up for it” than getting nothing back.

So, I was wondering if anybody has any tips on how to get rid of this feeling and getting the courage to message others, without fearing I won’t get a reply back?

It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

I'm somewhat agreeing with Dunedain-Ranger, but I would at least send a reply back with my refusal. You were willing to take a bit of time to approach and be brave enough to do so in the first place, so the least I think you can do is politely decline.

That being said, coming up with a name and some profile content should help you get some replies back. Being a complete blank slate would definitely dissuade people from wanting to rp with you.

Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

Please correct me if I misunderstand what you mean, but I never message people anonymously!

Katia wrote:
I'm somewhat agreeing with Dunedain-Ranger, but I would at least send a reply back with my refusal. You were willing to take a bit of time to approach and be brave enough to do so in the first place, so the least I think you can do is politely decline.

That being said, coming up with a name and some profile content should help you get some replies back. Being a complete blank slate would definitely dissuade people from wanting to rp with you.

I agree, if I was the one receiving said message, I would polite decline and then move on.

But thank you for your advice, I will surely use it the next time I approach somebody!

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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

Please correct me if I misunderstand what you mean, but I never message people anonymously!

Ok. How am I to know that though? You started this thread with your anonomous triple dash name. Maybe if you started this thread with your writer's account name, I would have understood that. ;)

I have a similar fear! Often I find I can get one or two replies before they lose interest and stop interacting with me entirely. Sadly, beyond being 'nicer', I can't think of any viable solution to this problem right now.

(´・w・`)

Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

Please correct me if I misunderstand what you mean, but I never message people anonymously!

Ok. How am I to know that though? You started this thread with your anonomous triple dash name. Maybe if you started this thread with your writer's account name, I would have understood that. ;)

I figured it was pretty logical that I don’t send out messages anonymously, which is why I didn’t mention it at first. :)

kayzorch wrote:
I have a similar fear! Often I find I can get one or two replies before they lose interest and stop interacting with me entirely. Sadly, beyond being 'nicer', I can't think of any viable solution to this problem right now.

(´・w・`)

Aww, I’m sorry. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who experiences this, but I’m still sorry it has happened to you

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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

Please correct me if I misunderstand what you mean, but I never message people anonymously!

Ok. How am I to know that though? You started this thread with your anonomous triple dash name. Maybe if you started this thread with your writer's account name, I would have understood that. ;)

I figured it was pretty logical that I don’t send out messages anonymously, which is why I didn’t mention it at first. :)
It's only logical if you know the person. How they approached it was one direction it could logically go your thought was the other direction. In answer to your original post the only thing you can do is assume that it isn't you but that they either didn't have the time at that point in time to reply and then forgot(as unless they go to their inbox frequently they'd not have the bolded inbox notice.) or that they figure it best not to respond the former is more likely.

Lorvilran wrote:
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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
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Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
It would probably help if you actually had a name. If I got three dashes in a PM, I wouldn’t bother replying either. I’d think, ‘this guy can’t even come up with a name. Their RP posts would probably be the same’. You need to put an effort into trying to sell yourself. Just sayin’.

Please correct me if I misunderstand what you mean, but I never message people anonymously!

Ok. How am I to know that though? You started this thread with your anonomous triple dash name. Maybe if you started this thread with your writer's account name, I would have understood that. ;)

I figured it was pretty logical that I don’t send out messages anonymously, which is why I didn’t mention it at first. :)
It's only logical if you know the person. How they approached it was one direction it could logically go your thought was the other direction. In answer to your original post the only thing you can do is assume that it isn't you but that they either didn't have the time at that point in time to reply and then forgot(as unless they go to their inbox frequently they'd not have the bolded inbox notice.) or that they figure it best not to respond the former is more likely.

I think you misunderstood me a bit; I thought it was logical, from what I wrote in the first post, that whenever I message somebody to ask if they're interested in a roleplay, I never message them anonymously. I try to think that it's either of the cases, but it has turned out to be a bit difficult.

I understood. But yeah the end was my attempt to point to what I used to do in hopes that it might help.

If you haven't been already, it may help to invite a negative response. Something like:

"If you don't feel up to it for any reason, just let me know! :) "

This is an unusual case where I'll suggest putting in a smile even if you don't feel like it, simply because it helps the friendly, non-threatening vibe. If it feels wrong, though, no worries, you certainly don't have to and depending on circumstances it may really be best not to.

Beyond that, it's also possible that the person just hasn't seen it yet, or that they lack the time to respond in a way that they find acceptable.

Lorvilran wrote:
I understood. But yeah the end was my attempt to point to what I used to do in hopes that it might help.

It does, thank you!

Novalyyn wrote:
If you haven't been already, it may help to invite a negative response. Something like:

"If you don't feel up to it for any reason, just let me know! :) "

This is an unusual case where I'll suggest putting in a smile even if you don't feel like it, simply because it helps the friendly, non-threatening vibe. If it feels wrong, though, no worries, you certainly don't have to and depending on circumstances it may really be best not to.

Beyond that, it's also possible that the person just hasn't seen it yet, or that they lack the time to respond in a way that they find acceptable.

Ohh, this is a great idea, thank you!! I usually just assume that they're busy or that they're not interested, but I'll definitinely add your suggestion. I think the smiley is a good thing, so I don't risk coming off too harsh or anything and more friendly!

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