Hello
I’m too scared to post this without being anonymous, in case somebody would recognize me and I don’t feel like I have anybody that I can talk to about this. So this is going to be me ranting and complaining because I’m unbelieveably tired.
Being ignored by my roleplay partners or potential roleplay partners isn’t new to me. Most of the time I’ve been able to let go and tell myself that if they wouldn’t even bother to respond, they weren’t worth it for me.
Usually, people don’t ignore others without reason: they’ve lost interest in the roleplay but are afraid to say so, real life got too busy, etc. I fully understand that, even though I really wish it wasn’t like that. Communication shouldn’t be that hard.
About 3 weeks ago I found a new roleplay partner and it felt like we clicked really well - they seemed just as excited and pumped about the roleplay as I felt. They started replying less but I figured that they were getting busy, plus it didn’t really bother me. They hadn’t replied, so I simply checked up on them. A week later, they still hadn’t replied, so again, I checked up on them. I waited almost another week until I asked them why they ignored me.
They continue to ignore me and now they have unfriended me. I’ve seen their friends give them kudos and compliments about how kind they are, even though it seems ironic to me. But what do I know.
It just hurts a lot because I looked forward to the roleplay for so long and I was genuinely excited and happy about it. I wrote out a really long plot idea, that I never even got to send them.
Thanks for listening to me ramble, even though it didn’t have any other purpose than for me to get some steam out.
I’m too scared to post this without being anonymous, in case somebody would recognize me and I don’t feel like I have anybody that I can talk to about this. So this is going to be me ranting and complaining because I’m unbelieveably tired.
Being ignored by my roleplay partners or potential roleplay partners isn’t new to me. Most of the time I’ve been able to let go and tell myself that if they wouldn’t even bother to respond, they weren’t worth it for me.
Usually, people don’t ignore others without reason: they’ve lost interest in the roleplay but are afraid to say so, real life got too busy, etc. I fully understand that, even though I really wish it wasn’t like that. Communication shouldn’t be that hard.
About 3 weeks ago I found a new roleplay partner and it felt like we clicked really well - they seemed just as excited and pumped about the roleplay as I felt. They started replying less but I figured that they were getting busy, plus it didn’t really bother me. They hadn’t replied, so I simply checked up on them. A week later, they still hadn’t replied, so again, I checked up on them. I waited almost another week until I asked them why they ignored me.
They continue to ignore me and now they have unfriended me. I’ve seen their friends give them kudos and compliments about how kind they are, even though it seems ironic to me. But what do I know.
It just hurts a lot because I looked forward to the roleplay for so long and I was genuinely excited and happy about it. I wrote out a really long plot idea, that I never even got to send them.
Thanks for listening to me ramble, even though it didn’t have any other purpose than for me to get some steam out.
Man that is relatable. Sometimes people are just like that and it sucks. I’m sorry dude.. I hope that this dosnt happen again because it really sucks when it does
I agree it sucks! It's never a fun feeling.
On the flip side, this person may have not been feeling the RP, and felt it safer to ignore you than to admit they weren't having a good time. Although it's always best to tell someone and not ghost on them, I do understand that when someone gets negative responses to trying to communicate how they feel, it's more intimidating to try again next time. That leads to ghosting.
Of course this was not a great outcome, and your feelings of hurt and disappointment are real and valid. But theirs can be too, and I know it helps me feel better when I understand the other person might be having a hard time and doesn't know how to tell me and gives up.
On the flip side, this person may have not been feeling the RP, and felt it safer to ignore you than to admit they weren't having a good time. Although it's always best to tell someone and not ghost on them, I do understand that when someone gets negative responses to trying to communicate how they feel, it's more intimidating to try again next time. That leads to ghosting.
Of course this was not a great outcome, and your feelings of hurt and disappointment are real and valid. But theirs can be too, and I know it helps me feel better when I understand the other person might be having a hard time and doesn't know how to tell me and gives up.
Gives --- Hugs
I have ignored and been ignored, but nothing sucks more than a partner you've been writing for a while and had a great time with suddenly ghost on you. Feels like losing a friend. My guess is that it hasn't turned out as they hoped and they don't feel like saying anything to you and it feels better for them to ignore you. It sucks, but that's how it is.
My advice is never to stop looking for partners. Talk with them often OOC and build some trust to make sure and keep the partnership stable and consistent. I know my journey for great in seeking for partners has been fairly long and not gonna lie, painful on it's own.
So yeah, don't give up.
My advice is never to stop looking for partners. Talk with them often OOC and build some trust to make sure and keep the partnership stable and consistent. I know my journey for great in seeking for partners has been fairly long and not gonna lie, painful on it's own.
So yeah, don't give up.
Kingbaconporkchop wrote:
Man that is relatable. Sometimes people are just like that and it sucks. I’m sorry dude.. I hope that this dosnt happen again because it really sucks when it does
It really does. Thank you, I hope the same for you
Sanne wrote:
I agree it sucks! It's never a fun feeling.
On the flip side, this person may have not been feeling the RP, and felt it safer to ignore you than to admit they weren't having a good time. Although it's always best to tell someone and not ghost on them, I do understand that when someone gets negative responses to trying to communicate how they feel, it's more intimidating to try again next time. That leads to ghosting.
Of course this was not a great outcome, and your feelings of hurt and disappointment are real and valid. But theirs can be too, and I know it helps me feel better when I understand the other person might be having a hard time and doesn't know how to tell me and gives up.
On the flip side, this person may have not been feeling the RP, and felt it safer to ignore you than to admit they weren't having a good time. Although it's always best to tell someone and not ghost on them, I do understand that when someone gets negative responses to trying to communicate how they feel, it's more intimidating to try again next time. That leads to ghosting.
Of course this was not a great outcome, and your feelings of hurt and disappointment are real and valid. But theirs can be too, and I know it helps me feel better when I understand the other person might be having a hard time and doesn't know how to tell me and gives up.
Thank you, Sanne! It’s nice to get confirmed that it’s okay for me to feel like this, even though I can’t really help it.
You’re completely right, they have most likely had a valid reason to not reply. I would just like to get to know if I said something wrong, they just weren’t feeling the roleplay anymore, they had too much stuff on their plate - whatever, just a small note instead of nothing at all
Suwako423 wrote:
Gives --- Hugs
Thank you
Queen_of_Hell wrote:
I have ignored and been ignored, but nothing sucks more than a partner you've been writing for a while and had a great time with suddenly ghost on you. Feels like losing a friend. My guess is that it hasn't turned out as they hoped and they don't feel like saying anything to you and it feels better for them to ignore you. It sucks, but that's how it is.
My advice is never to stop looking for partners. Talk with them often OOC and build some trust to make sure and keep the partnership stable and consistent. I know my journey for great in seeking for partners has been fairly long and not gonna lie, painful on it's own.
So yeah, don't give up.
My advice is never to stop looking for partners. Talk with them often OOC and build some trust to make sure and keep the partnership stable and consistent. I know my journey for great in seeking for partners has been fairly long and not gonna lie, painful on it's own.
So yeah, don't give up.
Your guess sounds very realistic and I understand that, I really do. It just sucks to be the person at the other end and not know if you’ve done anything wrong.
I totally agree with you, I try my best but this really hurt and when it happened, it felt like the last straw. I just have to build up more courage and get back in the game again, yet I’m afraid that the same thing will happen again
Although I personally think it's ok for anyone to ghost for any reason they have, I can really relate to the feeling of seeing someone who hurt your feelings getting praised for being nice by other people. That stings. 
But don't give up, this is just for fun, and there's a lot of different styles/schedules out there that will click more with you.
But don't give up, this is just for fun, and there's a lot of different styles/schedules out there that will click more with you.
TalonHammer wrote:
Although I personally think it's ok for anyone to ghost for any reason they have, I can really relate to the feeling of seeing someone who hurt your feelings getting praised for being nice by other people. That stings.
But don't give up, this is just for fun, and there's a lot of different styles/schedules out there that will click more with you.
But don't give up, this is just for fun, and there's a lot of different styles/schedules out there that will click more with you.
Exactly! I get that every person has different bonds and experiences with different people - so in somebody else’s eyes, they might be a God, where as to me, I wouldn’t praise them. It just feels wrong, because I wouldn’t like to be praised by other people if I’d hurt somebody. I literally wrote on my profile - to avoid these situations - that I don’t want people to start a roleplay with me, if they’re going to ignore me
Thank you for the motivation
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Exactly! I get that every person has different bonds and experiences with different people - so in somebody else’s eyes, they might be a God, where as to me, I wouldn’t praise them. It just feels wrong, because I wouldn’t like to be praised by other people if I’d hurt somebody. I literally wrote on my profile - to avoid these situations - that I don’t want people to start a roleplay with me, if they’re going to ignore me
Thank you for the motivation
Thank you for the motivation
NP. I think posting that on your profile is a good and proactive thing to do, to avoid this kind of situation. Like, that's the best anyone can do, just be honest about how they want to be treated upfront.
TalonHammer wrote:
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Exactly! I get that every person has different bonds and experiences with different people - so in somebody else’s eyes, they might be a God, where as to me, I wouldn’t praise them. It just feels wrong, because I wouldn’t like to be praised by other people if I’d hurt somebody. I literally wrote on my profile - to avoid these situations - that I don’t want people to start a roleplay with me, if they’re going to ignore me
Thank you for the motivation
Thank you for the motivation
NP. I think posting that on your profile is a good and proactive thing to do, to avoid this kind of situation. Like, that's the best anyone can do, just be honest about how they want to be treated upfront.
That was what I what hoping it would do - I didn’t want to write something like “Hey, please don’t ignore / ghost on me” to every new potential partner. So I figured it would be a better idea to put it on my profile, so I can say that I’ve done my part to avoid it
It's no fun being ignored in a forum or in a roleplay. I feel your pain 💔💔.
Is this like the third thread about being ignored in this forum? Maybe if you had an actual writer name you wouldn’t be ignored?
*Shrug*
*Shrug*
Sexysultrybabe wrote:
It's no fun being ignored in a forum or in a roleplay. I feel your pain 💔💔.
Thank you
Caitlyn wrote:
Is this like the third thread about being ignored in this forum? Maybe if you had an actual writer name you wouldn’t be ignored?
*Shrug*
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I’m not sure I understand what you mean?
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Caitlyn wrote:
Is this like the third thread about being ignored in this forum? Maybe if you had an actual writer name you wouldn’t be ignored?
*Shrug*
*Shrug*
I’m not sure I understand what you mean?
I've been in your situation. It's seldom any fault of one's own in truth. I'm usually a very emphatic individual and will analyse the demeanor that seemingly preceded the 'exclusion' but in truth, you can never know. Even if they tell you to your face of their reasons, you can't know –I know them telling you would provide a closure of knowing, but it's better to self-impose ignorance and move on. Don't dwell, that is what hurts. Ask them one time, then say '**** it', you don't need them to confirm your existence.
Eve-of-fall wrote:
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Caitlyn wrote:
Is this like the third thread about being ignored in this forum? Maybe if you had an actual writer name you wouldn’t be ignored?
*Shrug*
*Shrug*
I’m not sure I understand what you mean?
I've been in your situation. It's seldom any fault of one's own in truth. I'm usually a very emphatic individual and will analyse the demeanor that seemingly preceded the 'exclusion' but in truth, you can never know. Even if they tell you to your face of their reasons, you can't know –I know them telling you would provide a closure of knowing, but it's better to self-impose ignorance and move on. Don't dwell, that is what hurts. Ask them one time, then say 'fuck it', you don't need them to confirm your existence.
I agree, there's always a chance that you can't completely trust what they say, even though it definitely would give me, personally, a closure and calm on the inside. It just sucks.
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Eve-of-fall wrote:
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Caitlyn wrote:
Is this like the third thread about being ignored in this forum? Maybe if you had an actual writer name you wouldn’t be ignored?
*Shrug*
*Shrug*
I’m not sure I understand what you mean?
I've been in your situation. It's seldom any fault of one's own in truth. I'm usually a very emphatic individual and will analyse the demeanor that seemingly preceded the 'exclusion' but in truth, you can never know. Even if they tell you to your face of their reasons, you can't know –I know them telling you would provide a closure of knowing, but it's better to self-impose ignorance and move on. Don't dwell, that is what hurts. Ask them one time, then say 'fuck it', you don't need them to confirm your existence.
I agree, there's always a chance that you can't completely trust what they say, even though it definitely would give me, personally, a closure and calm on the inside. It just sucks.