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What do you do when people ignore your rp request on a forum? What can I do to be less lonely and a bit more popular on here?
FancieDonuts wrote:
What do you do when people ignore your rp request on a forum? What can I do to be less lonely and a bit more popular on here?

You wait for a few days and make another post! Simple!

Also, try out the Site Chat if you haven't already. Get to know people and comment a whole bunch, don't overdo it though.
Ok I can try and don't worry I won't over post lol. I been playing the forum games on here and those are fun
Making friends is indeed a great way to get RP! I'm actually sad that I've had to turn folks down.

You can also try looking through other postings to see if there might be something you can work on to improve response. Are you giving enough info? Too much info? Is it organized in a way that makes sense?

And sometimes, you might just find that you have "unusual" interests that make it tricky to find a partner. (Doesn't mean the interest is bad! Just some aren't so common.)
Comment on things. Make yourself known. Some people are more willing to try ideas when they know a bit about the writer.

Sometimes an idea can be a bit unusual or difficult for others so you just need to be patient and keep advertising. The patience does pay off in the end.

Try searching for players. You might can luck up and find someone willing to try if you message them.
PenguinColada

It just comes with being in an RP community. There will be people who just aren't interested, and instead of confronting you about it, they'll just... pass over you. I've made RP requests with several people only to be ignored. It happens.

Don't let it get to you personally. <3
PenguinColada wrote:
It just comes with being in an RP community. There will be people who just aren't interested, and instead of confronting you about it, they'll just... pass over you. I've made RP requests with several people only to be ignored. It happens.

Don't let it get to you personally. <3
Thank you :)
I just move on if someone ignores me. Generally I resign that they wont respond right away, that way when/if they do it's a bomb of excitement!

Posting more on forums does get noticed yes, but another way to get more rps is to just click on stuff...as you're looking around check out characters and users also, not just the rp prompts. If you find someone or a character you like and have an idea for mail them and ask....I've gotten a couple really fun rps going before using that tactic! You might still get ignored sometimes but like was mentioned before, it's just kind of something that goes with being on an rp site sadly, and we have to take the bad with the good.
PenguinColada

FancieDonuts wrote:
PenguinColada wrote:
It just comes with being in an RP community. There will be people who just aren't interested, and instead of confronting you about it, they'll just... pass over you. I've made RP requests with several people only to be ignored. It happens.

Don't let it get to you personally. <3
Thank you :)
Of course!

Good luck, friend! <3

I'd offer to RP with you but I'm not sure what you are into, what you're looking for, or what I could even provide. And my muse is hidden somewhere in a dark corner as well.
Everyone has already given sound advice and I hope you’ve gotten some ideas on what to do next. You’re not alone on this; there are a lot of “Looking for RP” threads there that doesn’t get a lot of replies. That’s not because it’s any of your fault personally, but probably the person who might be interested in your idea hadn’t visited yet.

It’s a great place to advertise your ideas, but remember that there is a huge percentage of people who don’t go there. I admit, I rarely visit that forum to look for ideas too. What I do is just to visit other forums and talk to people. You’d be surprised at how many people clicks on your profile! That’s why another great way to entice people to write with you is to make your profile as inviting as possible.

But be careful not to just dump a whole lot of info on your profile! If you put in too much or it’s too chaotic with moving gifs and walls of text, you’ll do the opposite effect and scare away potential writing partners instead. Make it simple and clean, easy to understand, pretty it up, and of course have fun with it! Your profile page is your face in this forum, I suggest you start there. You can also post some of your story ideas there.
if ya want,shoot me a message,people are ignoring me as well
Sorry to hear that. It sucks when it happens, believe me. I know the feeling.

But hey, if you ever want to role play with someone, my door is always open. Don't be afraid to DM me. :)
I think the weirdest thing is when you see someone's ad so you message them asking if they're interested in your character, and they ignore you. I wish they'd just say yes or no. I've never had that happen to me on any site other than RPR, but it's soooo common here!

I understand your struggle lol!
I’ve messaged lots of people and have been ignored. It seems to happen whether or not I compliment them, whether I suggest a plot or not or whether I make a suggestion on which of my characters might do well with their own characters.

People sometimes forget to respond, or they ignore you just because they can’t be bothered to respond. Or maybe they have had a bad experience after rejecting someone in the past. I’ve observed a lot of people want to tailor their online experiences so that they never have to deal with anything that makes them the least bit uncomfortable.

Things can get lost in the shuffle in forum rp, you can always try to privately message someone in the rp and attempt to collaborate with them.

It’s a lot easier to get away with being rude to people online. When people ignore me I make a mental note of it and move on. There have been a couple of times when someone who ignored me messaged an anonymous character of mine later on and I simply deleted their message.

It takes some searching to find partners that match our interests. Don’t give up!
Thanks, I won't. Not going full detail but I been ghosted in the past so I tend to keep my guard up.
PenguinColada

FancieDonuts wrote:
Thanks, I won't. Not going full detail but I been ghosted in the past so I tend to keep my guard up.
Understandable. And I'm sure most of us here have been ghosted as well.
I have done this earlier on in my time. I try not to do it anymore. I rather have a reputation of a guy who refuses, than the guy who ignores


But to the original question as to what you can do. I say just keep at it, and improve basic things like grammar and how you present your ideas. I found people responsible d better to detailed but direct ideas. The idea is to make an idea "specific enough" while leaving the door open for modification to tailor the experience for your partner.

I found that also having a general idea that broadly encompasses a lot of common "likes" is also helpful, but that's up to you. Don't feel like you have to slave to someone else, but know that bending a little helps heighten the likelihood of successful contact

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